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Time for Adjustments?

We’re on a journey in life. No matter how much we want things to stay the same, they don’t. There are some things we want so badly in life, we can taste it, but it doesn’t happen the way we think it will or think it should. The people we think will stay a part of our lives forever leave, for any number of reasons. We want to know when things will change for the better, but maybe we aren’t meant to know.

We want to know the answers to life's biggest questions and we just don’t know. If 2020 has shown us anything so far, it is to expect the unexpected. But it also reveals where we still need to work on our lives.

Right now, nothing is what we think it should be. We are in a huge period change personally and globally. We’re about to see a new snapshot of what 2020 has in store for us. More of the picture is being revealed. We have the second eclipse plus the solstice. Also, we have 5 planets in retrograde (Mercury, Venus, Jupiter, Saturn, and Pluto) with another one about to go retrograde (Neptune). That’s a lot of retrograde energy. During retrogrades we’re meant to review, revise and reexamine our lives. What’s our vision? Does our life meet our vision? Where are we off course? What can we do to adjust? It’s time for adjustments.

I’ve been playing around with astrology for several years now and during quarantine I’ve been working on learning to read charts. It’s a process! But it’s a path that I’m meant to follow. I’ve always been fascinated by horoscopes and how we can take natal charts to learn something about ourselves. Learning about my natal chart has helped me to accept parts of myself that I thought were wrong, or others thought were different than they should be.

This retrograde is another period for me to examine my life. Where did I steer off course? I can think of a few things. I’m sure you can as well. How do I adjust? With my study of astrology, it’s time to take a new examination and pick up where I last left off while I completed my coaching certification. Continue what I had started and put aside. I can think of other things, but those are stories for a future time.

Use the power of the energies we’re in right now and make adjustments to fit your vision.

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Forgive Yourself

Forgive yourself. You didn’t know. This can apply to so many areas of your life. From trusting someone that you shouldn’t, to not knowing something about yourself. The truth is . . . you didn’t know.

Part of life is the journey of discovery. We’re sent here to learn new things. If we entered this world already knowing everything, it would get boring quickly. Although a little bit of boredom might be nice sometimes. Just saying.

We learn new things every single day. It’s part of our path. Right now, so many of us are learning a lot and for some of us our entire lives have been tipped upside down. It’s ok. You didn’t know. But here’s the thing about not knowing, it’s ok until you do. Once you know and you choose to do nothing, that’s now a choice.

I’ve been struggling over the past week with how I proceed with my discoveries about white privilege and finding a way forward. To take action and to help myself and others forgive themselves for not knowing. I would normally have joined a protest but due to the pandemic, it doesn’t feel like that’s the correct choice for me. If it’s the right choice for you, I applaud you, but remember to try and stay safe. This isn’t over. We haven’t learned what we need to yet.

I saw a post on Facebook that our local church was asking people to join around the church for 8 minutes and 46 seconds while the bell rang. I’m sure most of you are aware at this point of the significance of that amount of time, but just to be sure, it’s the amount of time associated with the death of George Floyd. I really wanted to join in, but I had to find another way. I remembered that I could hear the bells from my house. So as the bells started to ring, I took a knee out on the lawn. What do I do next? I’m not sure yet, but I can’t turn back and be blind. I’m sure more will be revealed to me and you before our time is done, but we have to forgive ourselves for what we didn’t know and find a new way forward. I’m working on forgiving myself. It’s up to you to determine how to forgive yourself.

What do you need to forgive yourself for? Let me know. Do you want to know more about what I do? Click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

It’s Time to Learn and Listen

These past weeks have taught us a lot about the world, the United States and ourselves. There’s so much we don’t know; I’m included in this statement. While scrolling through posts on Facebook, I read something that jumped out from the headlines. There’s racism in all of us. The first thing I wanted to do was deny that statement, but the more I pondered it, the more I had to admit there it’s true.

Racism has been present since the time the United States was founded. Slavery has been a part of this country from the beginning in some form. We had a Civil War to outlaw slavery, but it never really ended. The people found ways around it. We had the Civil Rights Movement, but again people found ways to continue with their beliefs. Confronting our beliefs is one of the hardest things to do in life.

I grew up in the State of Maine. To put it simply, there isn’t a lot of diversity. For the few that were of a different race, they stood out. This was my limited exposure as a child. Even now most of the people I come across look like me. I had never thought about the concept of “white privilege” until recently, which in of itself tells something about my privilege.

I didn’t agree with so many things happening in the United States, but I cried tears of hope when we elected our first black president. I hoped that things could change. While there was a portion of the population that was different, there was a portion that wasn’t about to let the old way of life go.

The universe has a way of repeating messages until we can see what we didn’t want to see. Hopefully, we’re starting to receive the message. I’ve been searching my own soul. I cried as I watched officers of the law tear gas protestors in our nation’s capital on live television and wondered how did we get to this point.

Our nation has an opportunity to be different, but first we must confront our past. We have been part of the problem, whether we want to or not. Racism is present whether we agree with it or not. But how do we move forward? I don’t have all of the answers, but two responses that I keep getting are community and listening.

Growing up I lived in a neighborhood, a very small one I’ll admit, but my neighbors knew my name. I’d walk to school; people would wave and knew who I was. I knew the names of the police officers. I knew that if I did something wrong, someone was going to tell my parents. I still live in this same town and it’s not the same place. I don’t know all of my neighbor’s names. I don’t know our police by name. I don’t know the people in our community.

Our communities are no longer part of our joys and sorrows. We don’t know what people need. We lost community along the way. When we know our neighbors and who they are as people, we’re less likely to vilify them based upon our perceptions. It’s not an easy undertaking but rebuilding the foundation of an entire country isn’t either.

I want to believe that there’s good in everyone. Some days are harder than others. I hope that people aren’t beyond redemption. I hope that we can change the narrative and listen to what our neighbors need. The best thing I can do right now with my white privilege is to say I don’t know the answers, but I’m ready to learn and to listen. I don’t know the people in my community, but I’m ready to at least learn your names. I’m ready to do better. I’m ready to grow and to know that it’s going to take time. Growth can be a painful process but there’s something each one of us can learn.

What have you learned or need to learn? Let me know. Do you want to know more about what I do? Click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

What Is Normal?

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According to Merriam-Webster, the word normal means “conforming to a type, standard, or regular pattern; according with, constituting, or not deviating from a norm, rule or principle.”

We use this word a lot during our everyday lives. Especially right now. People want their “normal” way of life. People are creatures of habit. We’re not particularly fond of change, unless it’s one of our choosing. We want things our way.

Growing up I just wanted to be “normal”. I wanted to be like everyone else. I hated being different. I hated that I had to go to occupational therapy and the other kids didn’t. I spent my life trying to be like everyone else. It took me 25 years to learn that wasn’t an option. Every person is different. There is no normal. What if I said that especially applies to now?

You can have a normal day. Even during a pandemic, we are establishing new patterns. We have new habits, but we can’t go back to what it was. It’s just not possible. You can’t unlearn something. We can’t redo yesterday, it’s in the past. It’s the same thing with our normal.

Even going back to work, it’s different. It’s not the same. We can’t unhear what we’ve heard. People are still afraid, and they have a right to be. Even when the curve has started to decrease, people are going to be hesitant. There’s a possibility of a new normal for each of us. A new routine, but the old one’s gone.

It's strange how even living during a pandemic, a new normal emerges. New habits. New routines. New ways forward. It’s ok to miss what was. You can miss the simpler times, but things have changed. Change happens and it’s meant to. We’re meant to grow and evolve. This is part of our evolution. Let’s grow together!

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The Truth Is . . .

The truth is there’s always a reason to not do something or to not say something. There’s always a reason to not take action. There’s always a reason to not make a change.

We can always come up with a reason why. Not now. Maybe later. I don’t know enough. I’m not ready. What if they say no?

I would be willing to bet that one of these many reasons has held you back. You’re not alone. I’ve been right there with you. I don’t have time, or I need more information are some of my go tos.

The truth is that it’s ok. You can’t change the past, but you can change the present and maybe even the future. One small step can change everything if you want. Sometimes our biggest dreams can seem unattainable. We just don’t know how to get there. Breaking those dreams down into steps can make some dreams attainable.

I started my business by breaking it down into small steps. Choose a name. Design a logo. Register with the State of Maine.

I passed my certification program to be an empowerment coach with small steps. I signed up. Completed Lesson 1. Completed Lesson 30. Completed Call 1. Completed Call 30. Reviewed notes and started completed final assignment questions for 1. Repeat Day 5. I reviewed and clicked submit.

It doesn’t mean that I knew everything as I was doing it or that I do now, but I did it anyway. The moment of hitting submit was terrifying. Those voices inside of you that say, what if. What if I’m wrong? What if I fail?

The truth is you don’t know if you don’t try. I spent so much of my life not trying because of the what-ifs. Who knows what kind of life I missed by not trying, but the truth is that I can’t change my past, but I can change what I do at this moment.

Who knows what the future holds for any one of us? We may think we know, but one choice could potentially alter the course forward. The truth is that anything’s possible, but we have to try. We can’t live our life based on the what-ifs. We must live for our dreams. That might mean confronting our fears. Overcoming our pride. Who knows what you might uncover? The truth is only you know. What may have been true about you in the past doesn’t have to govern the remainder of your life. The truth is yours!

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What’s Your Gut Telling You?

There’s so much information swirling around us every day. Somedays do you even want to hear it? Maybe it’s best if you don’t. There are emails, social media posts, and news reports that not only present the facts, but how you should feel or react. But, are they right? Two different sides have their opinions about how to approach the issue and both have their own interpretation. Is that interpretation, right? Only you know what’s best for you!

With every piece of information that’s released, you have to act based on your own authority. You can be confused. It’s ok. Take a breath. What feels heavy to you? Does it feel wrong to you? Act from the information that feels right. You must do what you need to feel safe and secure. This goes back to the issue of choice. During this time of COVID-19, you have a choice, but so does the owner of the business that you visit. Respect that others have a choice. You may feel that your rights are being taken away from you (I’m not referring to people who are disabled in this statement). You have the right to go somewhere else. Your rights don’t mean that you can do whatever you want. Our Constitution in the United States doesn’t mean that you can murder someone else or steal from someone else. This isn’t any different. You have the right to act from your instincts, but your rights don’t override someone else’s.

Having been trained in Reiki and energy work, you can’t act without someone’s permission. You need approval to enter their field or coach someone. For most practitioners that’s the first question you’re asked. You have the right to say no and the discussion ends there. I can want to help you, but my desire to help you doesn’t override your right to not want my help. Nothing is different here.

You have the right to decide what’s right for you and wrong for you, but you don’t have the right for any other adult. You might not like the decision, but that’s their call. My question for you would be why does it bother you so much?

What’s your inner authority telling you? Let me know. Do you want to know more about what I do? Click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Is This Your Best?

Are you doing the best you can right now? If the answer is yes, then you have nothing to worry about. Growing up were you one of the kids whose parents accepted their grades if you did the best you could or the one whose parents expected perfection?

Perfection is a challenging trait to overcome. It could have been ingrained in us by our parents or something we learned. Either way striving to be perfect can prevent us from thriving in challenging circumstances. Perfection can never be obtained. Human beings aren’t perfect. We’re flawed. We have problems. It’s our problems that teach us on this journey called life.

You could wake up in the morning and your plans could be completely blown apart by 9 am. I’ve been there. I bet you have too. Things don’t always work out as we have planned. Life can get in the way. But, it’s ok. Give yourself permission to say it’s ok. If you did your best, then it’s ok.

For most of my life, I strove for perfection. What did it get me? I was never truly happy with myself. I wanted to be better. I would question everything that happened. While I still do these things, my motive has shifted. I want them to learn more. I want to see myself grow. I no longer want to use it as a mask for what others see. However, I also know this is a process and I can’t change comfortably overnight. The first thing I had to learn was that I was doing the best I could and to learn to be ok with that way of thinking. It took me time. I’m still a work in progress, but I’m doing the best I can.

As a result, my self-confidence has gone up. I feel better myself. I’ve tried things I never thought I would. I’ve learned to care less about what others think of me. I’ve given myself permission to do the best I can. That’s the best thing somedays that any of us can do.

Are you doing the best you can? Let me know. Do you want to know more about what I do? Click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Just Do It!

Nike’s “Just Do It!” campaign can apply to so much more then just buying sneakers. It can be a major lesson on life and taking action.

Taking action can feel like one of the most terrifying things to do at times. But what happens if we don’t? There are so many possibilities. We don’t allow ourselves to grow. We self-sabotage. In so many ways, we let life pass us bye. FYI, it doesn’t really pass us bye.

Sabotaging ourselves doesn’t feel like that in the moment. We’re afraid to take that step. We’re not sure. What will life look like on the other side? It could make you different from your friends and/or family. Whatever it may be could be stopping you from stepping into something you’ve dreamed of.

I know we’re still amid a pandemic and we aren’t supposed to leave our homes. But what I’m talking about doesn’t necessarily require you to leave your home. There are still ways you can act. Action doesn’t have to mean an accomplishment of a major goal but could be small steps towards reaching a major goal.

Over the course of the last year, I have taken small steps to big goals. I have been working on my empowerment coaching certification. One call at a time. I’m almost done! But as I reach the finish line, that fear can creep back in. What does it mean once I’m finished? I don’t know the answer to that yet. But so that I accomplish this, I have set small goals to finish my written examination. It is an exam of 40 questions, 20 about the course and 20 about 3 of my calls. I said that I’m going to work on it an hour per day. I looked back through my notes and started piecing together the responses to the first 20 questions. Then I drafted my responses. This part I’ve now completed. Next, go back and listen to my 3 calls. Listen to one call per day and draft my responses as I go. I plan on submitting the exam on April 30. Some days I haven’t done anything, and you know what? That’s ok! I’m making progress. I started at the beginning of April. I gave myself plenty of time with the expectation that I might not want to work on it some days. I told people about my deadline to hold myself accountable. You’re part of that team as I near the finish line! I broke my goal into small manageable pieces. These are the same steps I took when starting my business. I’ve found this process works for me. Maybe it doesn’t work for you. That’s ok too! It’s about finishing a way forward to something you might not have done.

You might have started but not finished. I have a lot of those too! Someday I will check them off and find a way to complete them. But one thing at a time. I can always go back and work on them. First, pick a goal and work through the fears that are going to creep in. They always do. It’s how we know we’re on the right track. Second, break it down into small steps. Third, come up with a deadline. Fourth, tell someone. Fifth, just do it.

What’s your goal? How are your fears holding you back? What can you do to move forward? Let me know. Do you want to know more about what I do? Click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Are You Uncomfortable Yet?

We live at a point in time where our daily life can be super uncomfortable. Our security, our safety, and our level of comfort have been rocked. We are being forced to live outside of our comfort zone and most of us don’t like it! It’s one thing to make a choice to step outside of your comfort zone and make changes to your life, but it’s another to have those changes forced upon you.

None of us want to have decisions made for us. We want to oversee our lives. Living in a COVID-19 world, people are in pain. People are dying. People are drowning in debt. People can’t pay their bills. People don’t have food. It can be challenging to see the positives and opportunities when we are just trying to survive.

For so many of us, right now is about surviving. We’re trying to make it one day or pay one bill. I know this can be hard to hear, but we might be missing what we need to learn. COVID-19 is an opportunity for us to learn. To make the hard decisions.

For years I lived in the dark. I didn’t want to know what my problems were, I just wanted them to miraculously go away. I didn’t care whether it was someone else coming to save me or my life just suddenly got better. Either way was good. I didn’t care how it happened.

Growing up I thought that certain things would happen at a certain point in my life. For some they did, but for me, they didn’t seem to work out that way. When I turned 30, I didn’t want to acknowledge that my life wasn’t what I had dreamed it would be. The hardest question I ever asked myself was why. Asking that question meant that I could no longer live my life in denial. I had to take the leap out of my comfort zone. That leap was one of the most terrifying things I had done. Starting my own business last year was officially the most terrifying thing I have ever done. Stepping out of your comfort zone is uncomfortable.

What you’re experiencing right now is a push out of your comfort zone and I’m right there with you. I’ve been given another shove put of my comfort zone this past month. My routine has been totally disrupted. My income has been shaken up. One of the hardest things that I had to do was overcome my pride and file for unemployment. I had done everything right! I had gotten a part-time job to help pay my bills while my business was getting established. I stepped past my pride and had to have courage and trust that all would be ok. The interesting thing is that by taking that leap I’m doing better than I was a month ago.

That doesn’t mean that everyone is. I’m grateful that I’m doing better, but I also know that I’ve done a lot of work to get there. There was no miracle cure. No one came to save me. It was me. I had to do the work and take the leap. My discomfort had to grow to the point that I just couldn’t take it anymore. I had reached my breaking point. Congratulations! You may have just reached yours. Here comes the opportunity for you to say that I’m never going to be like this again and start to make different decisions.

How are you going to step out of your comfort zone? Let me know. Do you want to know more about what I do? Click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Have A Little Patience

How are you doing right now? It’s ok if you’re having trouble adjusting. We all are. For most of us we go, go, go from waking to bedtime. For most of us, we can’t do that anymore. We may still have our jobs but are having to fit in schooling our children. We may have lost our jobs and having trouble getting dressed. You’re where you are right now and that’s ok. Even when you can get dressed, you might have trouble doing something besides watching tv. That’s ok too. Be patient with yourself.

Things that we looked forward to are being canceled. Even things that might have helped us to feel better like getting our hair or nails done aren’t an option. It’s ok to be frustrated, depressed or angry. It’s ok to be sad. It’s ok to cry. For us to start to feel better, you must release what you’re feeling, and it doesn’t happen overnight. Honor where you are in the process. If you feel like checking something off on your to-do list, then do it. If you don’t, allow yourself permission to take a break.

We are being asked to heal. The healing process for each person is different. Each one of us is unique and so is our process.

Have patience with yourself. Be kind to yourself. I typically have a to-do list a mile long and over the last couple of weeks I haven’t done as much as I would have liked, but I like you, am having to figure out what my life is right now. I miss my friends. I miss my routine. Things just aren’t the same. I have watched videos on Facebook and movies and cried. That’s not all that unusual for me, but it has helped. I’m honoring where I am in the process. I will get to the action phase soon, but for now, I’m adjusting and grieving for what was and determining what could be.

How have you been patient with yourself? Or how do you need to be more patient with yourself? Let me know. Do you want to know more about what I do? Click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.