Surrender

One of the most challenging things you might ever do is to learn to surrender.  You have a tendency to want to control.  To control how something happens.  Eek!  You get an idea in your head.  You may even try to force it to happen in the way you’ve seen.  But unfortunately, that’s not how things work.  You’re meant to do some work to bring that something to fruition, but the unfolding isn’t up to you. What a bummer!  You can do, do, do all you want, and somethings just won’t happen no matter what you do.   It could be you’re trying too hard or not hard enough.  Like that makes any sense.
 
There’s a balance that you need to learn to walk.  The only thing you can control is yourself.  You can’t force someone else to change, no matter how much you want to.  You can’t control how someone else feels.  You can’t make something happen when you want it to.  It would be easier if it didn’t.
 
There’s a plan for you.  Things in your life don’t always operate on your timetable.  You need to learn to surrender.  Now you may be thinking how do I do that?  Each person is a little different.  Ultimately like anything else the more you work on yourself, the more things will start to fall into place, and you won’t want to control the outcome anymore.
 
Surrendering is a practice.  It’s a place within yourself that is confident.  One that knows that things will happen as they’re meant to.  One day you may do well, the next might be more challenging.  The practice isn’t always easy.  It’s something that you work towards.  You learn to work through your fears, your desires, and your pride to open up and allow courage to enter your life.
 
Have the courage to surrender to your dreams.  Work on yourself.  Feel comfortable within yourself.  What you want will come, it may not be in the package you envisioned or happen how you would like, but it will come if you can step back and surrender.
 
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Huh?

What did you say?  Misunderstandings seem to be the name of the game during Mercury Retrograde.  Some have more difficulties during retrograde periods than others, but misunderstandings are everywhere.
 
Have you said something and then gone, that’s not what I meant!  It happens all too often.  People are especially sensitive right now.  They may feel like lashing out rather than taking an opportunity to breathe and think through how they wish to react.
 
It can be especially tricky for those of us on the other end.  How do you want to respond?  Do you want to be a better person?
 
That doesn’t mean that you have to allow people to walk all over you.  It does mean that you need to make sure to breathe and think through your responses.  Respond to others from your highest place.  Don’t sink to their level.  Respond true to who you are. 
 
The world is divisive right now, but you don’t need to follow down that path.  Speak from a place that is for the highest and best good for you.  It can be challenging to not immediately respond, but sometimes it’s best for all to think about your response.
 
Misunderstandings are bound to happen, but you can try to limit them as much as possible.  When things don’t go as planned, change course or apologize.
 
You can always try again.  You have an opportunity to think about what’s happening in your life.  You can do it differently.  Just because it’s always been that way doesn’t mean it can’t be different going forward.
 
Misunderstandings will happen, but how do you respond?  That’s where the lesson is.
 
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What’s Coming Up?

What’s rising to the surface for you this week?  It’s coming up for a reason.  Don’t just stuff it back down.  You tend to push those “bad” emotions down but isn’t the time to do that.  Become aware of what your emotions are trying to tell you.
 
Awareness is everything.  It’s the path forward to a new life.  Are you angry?  Don’t just lash out.  What are you angry about?  How does it relate to your past?  It’s always connected to the past.  It rarely has anything to do with the present moment.
 
When someone texts you asking questions.  Maybe it’s questions you’ve already answered.  Does it piss you off!  Maybe it’s because your boundaries are being infringed upon.  Maybe it’s because you feel like no one listens to you.  Take a step back before you tell the person where to go and how to get there.
 
To get to the bottom of the emotion you have to be aware.  Aware of what that emotion is trying to tell you.  Emotions aren’t the only thing that can be trying to get your attention.
 
Maybe you’ve been having lots of dreams recently.  What are they trying to tell you?  Maybe you’ve been going about an obstacle the wrong way.  Your dream could be providing you with instructions to adjust your tactics.
 
Are you the type of person that likes to skip to the end of the book and find out what happens?  Life isn’t like that.  You can’t just skip to the end.  You must go through the messy stuff to get to the good part.
 
You have to become aware of what you’re thinking.  Aware of what you’re feeling.  Why do you think or feel that way?  It’s all a part of what you’re learning right now, in this moment.  You’re meant to dig in.  Uncover the secrets and expose them to the light,
 
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It’s Time To…

What do you want 2021 to look like?  A lot of the structures in your life were demolished in 2020.  You can build something new.  Something different.  Are you ready?
 
It’s so easy to get stuck in the mindset of poor me.  Things never seem to work out for me.  But you don’t have to live there.  You can create something new.  Something different.  You can build a life that you love.
 
Maybe you’ll be one of the fortunate ones and with a snap of your fingers, it will be different.  But let me tell you a secret, it rarely happens that way.  You must process your old life first.  How did you end up where you are?  It’s not an easy process.  There’s a reason that people stay the way they are.  It requires work and effort.  How bad do you want it?
 
Are you willing to take the leap?  Are you willing to put in the work?  It would be easier if things did just magically happen.  You must demonstrate how badly you want it. 
 
The lessons that you’ve experienced have made you who you are.  You lived through them for a reason.  They’re part of your life’s journey, but you don’t have to stay there.
 
We can get guidance from our intuition, oracle/tarot cards, astrology, numerology, etc., but ultimately you have the final say over how your life turns out. It’s yours to live as you wish.  So, what are you going to do?
 
Every change starts with a small step.  You can do this if you want to.
 
It’s never easy to move past your fear or swallow your pride, but there’s so much joy on the other side knowing that you did something that terrified you and it turned out ok.
 
A leap of faith is challenging, but you must have hope.  Be optimistic that your world can be better.  It can be what you want it to be, the effort is up to you.
 
Do you ever have a thought that doesn’t leave?  A thought that says you should do this.  Start there.  You don’t have to change everything overnight.  Work through the pain and see what lies on the other side on your timetable.
 
What effort are you willing to put into changing your life?   Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Wait! Before you Speak…

After the events in Washington, D.C. in January, there’re seems to be a lot of blame going on.  One side is saying they should be heard, there’s evidence to prove their point and the other side is saying what was said to them 4 years ago, we won let’s move on.
 
The major issue is that you generally like to feel that you’re right.  What you believe couldn’t possibly be wrong?  So, you start to defend your beliefs.  You go after the person whose beliefs are different and attack.  Never asking, or per chance you did ask, to see why they hold those beliefs to begin with.  In truth, we seem quite polarized, but if we had an honest discussion, we might come to see we have more in common then we thought.
 
In order for the people of the United States to change, we need to each be willing to look at ourselves.  To look at our beliefs.  To listen to each other and not just to listen to respond but truly listen and hear what is being said.
 
Two wrongs don’t make a right.  So, what is right?  That’s challenging to say in a moment such as this.  You could say that you should be more emphatic, and it might be a good place to start.  The Golden Rule, to treat others as you wish to be treated.  We’ve gotten used to being anonymous and spouting off what you believe on social media.  It’s quite different if you have to look at person and see the hurt your words have caused.
 
You will often pick and choose facts to fit your narrative.  It doesn’t make it any more or less true.  You should be looking for the truth in any situation.  Not simply what should be true.
 
Right now, the world needs a little more kindness.  A little more compassion.   If only you took the time to live in another’s shoes, might we make progress and not be so divided?  You have a choice.  Would you rather be right or understand?
 
Each of us needs to learn some understanding.  Maybe it’s time to take a step back.  Think about your words before tossing them about or use them as a weapon.  Think before you speak.

How can you be a little more understanding?  Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment. 

What does 2021 have in store for you?

What does 2021 have waiting for you?  It’s the question that you want to know at the start of a new year, but especially after the challenge that was 2020.
 
As a student of astrology and numerology, I look to the cosmos for the answer.  Based on numerology, we’re looking at a 5 year (2 + 0 + 2 + 1 + 5).  But what does that mean?  We’re looking at a year of change.  The basic foundations of your life took a tumble in 2020.  You look at the world, so many people are on the verge of being homeless and waiting in line for food assistance.  What does that mean for them or you?  Your story hasn’t been told yet?
 
If you look at astrology, the planets Jupiter and Saturn told the story in 2020.  For 2021, Saturn and Uranus will be in charge.  You’re going to be looking at creating a new structure for your life.  Again, there’ll be an emphasis on change.  We had some sneak peeks at different points in the year as Jupiter and Saturn both moved into Aquarius and then retrograded back into Capricorn.  We’re finally moving forward.
 
We’re still at the stage where we can guess what our story will be.  Numerology and astrology can give us an idea of where the changes can happen, but nothing in this world is definite even if it seems fated.  The timing could be off.
 
You have to trust that the universe is there to support you.  It’s teaching you and guiding you to become the person you’re meant to be.
 
Your story will further unfold over the months in 2021.  What are you looking at?  Be prepared!  We’re still in the middle of the tale.  We’re on the ride.
 
Your life isn’t set in stone.  It’s a journey.  There are things for you to learn.  These events each contribute something to your story.
 
You never could have predicted the path your life would take in 2019 or 2020.  You’re intrigued by what 2021 has in store, but I want to skip to the end of the book and see what it says.  You have to trust that things will work out how they’re supposed to.
 
Be prepared for what 2021 has in store for you.  Hope you set some intentions on New Year’s, but it’s not too late!  Do them now.
 
What do you want 2021 to bring into your life?   Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Auld Lang Syne

Auld Lang Syne is a song that many people sing at the beginning of each year.  The song began as a poem by Robert Burns.  It goes:

Should auld acquaintance be forgot,
And never brought to mind?
Should auld acquaintance be forgot,
And auld lang syne.

Chorus:
For auld lang syne, my jo,
For auld lang syne,
We'll tak a cup o' kindness yet,
For auld lang syne,

And surely ye'll be your pint-stowp!
And surely I'll be mine!
And we'll tak a cup o' kindness yet,
For auld lang syne.

Chorus

We twa hae run about the braes
And pu'd the gowans fine;
But we've wander'd mony a weary foot
Sin auld lang syne.

Chorus

We twa hae paidl'd i' the burn,
Frae mornin' sun till dine;
But seas between us braid hae roar'd
Sin auld lang syne.

Chorus

And there's a hand, my trusty fiere!
And gie's a hand o' thine!
And we'll tak a right guid willy waught,
For auld lang syne.

Chorus

Should old acquaintance be forgot,
And never brought to mind?
Should old acquaintance be forgot,
And long, long ago.

Chorus

And for long, long ago, my dear
For long, long ago,
We'll take a cup of kindness yet,
For long, long ago
And surely you’ll buy your pint-jug!
And surely I'll buy mine!
And we'll take a cup of kindness yet,
For long, long ago.

Chorus

We two have run about the hills
And pulled the daisies fine;
But we've wandered manys the weary foot
Since long, long ago.

Chorus

We two have paddled in the stream,
From morning sun till dine;
But seas between us broad have roared
Since long, long ago.

Chorus

And there's a hand, my trusty friend!
And give us a hand of yours!
And we'll take a deep draught of good-will
For long, long ago.

Chorus

This song has been one that I’ve never understood what it means.  As we move from 2020 to 2021 it takes on a meaning for me.  In 2020, we have fought a battle of sorts with COVID or are fighting against losing a way of life.

We want thing to stay the same, but it’s just not possible.  Not one of us will be or can be the same once this year is over. 

We can only see what 2021 has in store for us.  What we do know is that 2021 needs a little more kindness.  Reading out and helping our fellow neighbors who are hurting.  Maybe they’ll reach back and we can “hold hands” on our imagination.

We need to be there for each other and support each other.  2021 still has lessons for us, but they’re always easier when a trusted friend has your hand.

My wish for 2021 is that we can find a new sense of life that feels freer.  That we can be kind to ourselves and our neighbors who are suffering and come together to create a better vision for the world.

What do you wish for 2021?  Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Look for the Miracle

If any year feels like you could use a miracle, it would be 2020.  Christmas is a time for miracles!
 
Have you ever experienced a miracle?  When the odds are against you, but somehow, some way, things end up ok.
 
When I was a teenager, I got to witness a Christmas miracle from the sidelines.  At Christmas, my grandparents and great aunt would come to celebrate at our house.  For some reason that year, we were at my grandparents’ home.  Her sister called on Christmas Eve to let us know her daughter’s husband had been taken to the Emergency Room.  My grandmother was hard of hearing, so all her conversations were on speakerphone.  The odds weren’t good.  He only had a 25% chance of surviving an aneurysm.  Somehow, someway, he is still with us.  All the people that needed to be there for him to survive were.
 
That Christmas has stuck with me for more than 20 years now.  I don’t remember what I received for gifts or what we ate, but I remember the miracle we received. 
 
This year’s Christmas is going to different for a number of reasons.  It won’t make it any less special.  It could be a year that stands out.  A year where you appreciate what’s around you.
 
We always seem to want what we can’t have.  It’s part of human nature.  This is a time for gratitude, joy, and the unexpected miracles that can come our way.
 
Miracles wouldn’t be what they are if they happened every day.  The Spirit of Christmas, whether you celebrate it or not, is full of magic. You must look for it, though.
 
The days are shorter, and it gets dark early, but with the darkness comes Christmas light displays and candles in the window.
 
If you haven’t decorated yet, it could be for so many reasons.  People are more depressed this time of year.  We miss what isn’t with us, but what if it is?  Magic and miracles are all around you.  No matter what your feels are during this season.  Maybe this year, everything changes for the better.  You don’t know if you aren’t looking. 
 
Look for the miracles.   They aren’t always what they seem.  But they are there. Let’s end the year on a positive note.
 
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Time to Count Your Blessings

It can be challenging to even think of being thankful or counting your blessings when it appears there’s so much wrong in life. 2020 has made it difficult for even the most optimistic to find a silver lining.  There is one, but you have to look harder.
 
What have your lessons been this year?  Would you have found them if COVID hadn’t happened?  Each one of you wants the world to go back to “normal”.  But what does that mean?  With the holiday season upon us, it’s more important than ever to find that sense of magic. 
 
It could be that you rely on some sense of tradition.  Decorating the house.  Being appreciative of the people around you every day.
 
You can dig deeper.  Maybe you have found what’s truly important.  You’ve learned something about yourself that you wouldn’t have in some other way.
 
I have learned a lot about myself.  There was a point in time that I disliked any change whatsoever.  There’s still a piece of that attitude there at times.  Other times I can roll with it and ask what does Spirit have in store for me?  Like most of you, I don’t care for wearing a mask, but if it keeps me and those I care about safe I will continue for as long as necessary.  But thanks to COVID, I have learned what’s true about my own energy and how that is seen by those around me.  I have learned what I truly value and am in the process of aligning my life with those values.  I don’t think I would have seen either of these without COVID.
 
The beginning of the year gave me the freedom to finish my empowerment certification program.  I was also able to concentrate on expanding my knowledge of astrology.  Still working on this and I think I always will be, but I’m ok with that.  I’m starting to read charts for my family and friends, something that I wouldn’t have had the confidence to do a year ago.
 
To move forward this practice is essential.  It can be hard to reflect, but it’s necessary.  Take the time to figure out your lessons.  They are so important to what 2021 has in store for you.
 
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It’s the Most Wonderful Time of the Year

Normally this is the time of year where the holiday season kicks into full swing! We’ve had Thanksgiving and Black Friday.  In my household, the Christmas decorations have gone up.
 
Christmas parties are on the calendar.  It’s time to celebrate with our friends and family.  But this year, everything’s different.  The regular traditions you’ve always known aren’t happening.  Every day the COVID numbers go up more.  You’ve had to make hard decisions about your values.  Is it safe to spend time around all your family?  Is it safe to travel home?
 
There are so many questions and very few answers.  The one area that it seems to point back to is what do you value?  Do you value stuff over the people in your life?  Sometimes the little things can mean a lot more than you thought, like getting a homemade card or a lollipop from a child.  Those gestures can take on a different meaning, especially this year.
 
For a long time, I accumulated lots of stuff (clothes, movies, music, and books).  I would rush out on Tuesday to buy the newest release.  I didn’t know it at the time, but I was trying to fill a void with things.  Over the years I’ve been working at removing the void.  I still have stuff to get rid of, but that’s for another post.
 
2020 has forced me to examine what do I value?  I had to cut a lot of expenses that seemed like they brought me value.  And for a time, they did.  I had outgrown them and was having trouble cutting the cord.  Others, I thought things would change and I might be able to keep them while everything got sorted out.  Some hard choices have been made.
 
There are still hard choices to make.  Some get pushed back because we aren’t ready to make, others get pushed in our face until we make it.
 
You have the right to choose what you value.  You’re the only one who can make it.  It’s not an easy time for so many people in the world.  It’s easy to lose sight of what’s important.  This holiday season remember what you value.  It may look different than before but’s not any less important.
 
 What do you value this holiday season?  Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.