Accept It

The world seems to be of two extremes now.  Joy or the inability to accept what’s transpired.
 
It’s easy to feel giddy when things go the way you want, but do you do when they don’t.  Things don’t always go as we’ve planned or expect.  There are days when you come up with a plan and just as the day begins your plan has gone awry.  It’s the nature of life.
 
Elisabeth Kubler-Ross identifies the 5 stages of grief as: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.  Getting to the acceptance phase can take time and, in some cases, might never happen. 
 
Denial.  We don’t want to hear it.  We want to hide from the world.  The idea that this can’t be happening right now.  It can’t be true.  Anger.  The pain starts to emerge.  We lash out at ourselves and those around us.  Bargaining.  The if only statements begin to appear.  We want someone else to step in.  Why couldn’t it have happened differently?  Maybe it still could.  Depression.  Sadness and regret.  Acceptance.  The stage where peace is made.  This process can happen quickly, or it may never reach completion.
 
It's ok to be upset that things didn’t work out how you wanted.  They don’t always, but it’s not ok to try and manipulate matters to meet your needs.  Give it a chance and see what happens.
 
We’re in a huge state of change in our lives.  Change is easiest when it’s the one we choose.  It’s difficult when it’s not.  It doesn’t change the reality of what’s going on.
 
What do you need to accept?  Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Into the Unknown

You’re in uncharted territory right now. Don’t worry you’re not alone. Who could have predicted any of this? But let’s take it as any opportunity l. It’s any opportunity to take care of yourself while answers come.
 
So, what does that mean for you? I can give you some suggestions. Maybe stay from anything that is speculative. That could mean news, it could mean Facebook or large group gatherings (which with COVID shouldn’t be happening).
 
Try and pay attention to your body. When you start to feel anxious or overwhelmed take a step back. It’s ok to say that I can have this conversation right now and step away. We all must do what we can to stay in a good frame of mind while we wait for answers. Like anything clarity will come but it doesn’t always happen our timetable.
 
It’s not always our choice. It would be so much easier if it was. When we first step into the unknown it can bring up a variety of emotions but the most likely one is fear. Fear can paralyze you and keep you from taking the steps you must do.
 
It sounds so simple but don’t take this piece of advice for granted. Take a breath and step away. Allow yourself to recenter and come back to it later. That’s it! When we have an opportunity to reflect, we can look at a situation differently than when we’re in an emotion. Any emotion!
 
Take care of yourself during this challenging time. Life will still be waiting for you when it’s over.
 
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How’s that Working for You?

A new world is waiting for you, but are you too afraid to walk through the door?  It’s okay!  It’s not too late to reset what you’re doing and try something different.

A new life, a new world is starting to come through, but you have to be willing to open the door.  When you’re afraid, there’s a tendency to cling to what’s familiar.  Everybody does it, but on occasion you need to try the new and see what works.

You might think you won’t like it.  You finally break down and try it.  Think of food.  It might confirm that you don’t like it.  At least you tried and it’s not for you.  Or maybe you tried it and were wrong all those years.  You want to try more.

You’re on the precipice of great changes, but you have to be willing to try.  Trying new things can be hard and difficult, but if you don’t you could be missing out on something special.

It’s easy to kick the can down the road and try later, but what if you took the time now?  You could be that much further along in the process.

2020 has been hard and you’ve had a lot of your misconceptions thrown in your face.  But what you done about it?  Have you tried or are you still holding on?  Could it work for you or not?  It’s hard to say, but you will never know if you don’t try.

Looking at life through a new lens can be hard.  You have to unravel your life and look at it as though you had something to do with where you’ve ended up.  You can’t blame everything that’s going wrong on someone else.  Only you and you alone can try something new and see how it goes.  What’s the worst that can happen?

Your visions from your past might not align with where you’re going.  It’s okay to evolve and become a different person.  Things don’t always work out the way we expect, but they work out how they should.

What’s something new that you’re going to try?  Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

R-E-S-P-E-C-T

Respect.  Something that we all want from others towards us, but do we always give it to those around us?

The world around us seems to be chaos and there doesn’t seem to be a lot of respect in the world.  We have people name-calling and speaking over each other.  People who don’t care what others have to say.  The only person whose opinion matters is their own.  Does that sound like a world where we respect each other?  It certainly doesn’t sound like one to me.

So, what do we do?  It can be a challenge because we must act differently from the energy around us.  We must act from a neutral place and not a reactive one.  We have to be the better person.  It’s possible!  The U.S. election is a few weeks away.  The energy surrounding it isn’t going to get better anytime soon.  If anything, it could get worse.

We are better than this!  We can rise above the chaos, and get back to living in a place where we care for our fellow neighbor.  A world where we help each other.  It may sound a little idealistic at this point, but the way things are right now, aren’t okay.  This shouldn’t be how we live.  We are better than this and we can be better than this!

You may be one of the people not acting this way and kudos to you, but I’m sure you know someone that is.  It could be a friend or family member.  You may not always agree with what they say or do, but do you still care for them?  Respect isn’t something that’s just given, it’s earned.  When we or those around us act in this way, that in and of itself is disrespectful.  Respect is a two-way street.  It’s not given if you don’t earn it.

Live your life as though you’re trying to earn the respect from those around you.  Be like those you want to be like.  Who do you admire?  Be like them.

Maybe someday we’ll get to a better place.  A place where we can respect each other, but right now a lot of us have work to do.  We can’t change things if we don’t respect the process.  Use the process we have and let’s start to change the outcome.  We can do this!

What don’t you respect right now?  Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

I Don’t Want to Be Me

Do you ever have days where you want to be someone else?  Anyone else?  You want to live a life that’s easier?  Most of us do at some point, but what does it mean.  That depends.

Do you have feelings of jealousy or envy?  You want what they have.  They seem to have a picture-perfect life.  Even those people who seem to have it all together, experience pain.  They may be deeply in debt.  Things aren’t always what they seem.

You want to live a life that’s easier?  The question again is why?  Some of us have chosen more challenging lives for a reason, but again things aren’t always what they seem.

Your life is based upon your perceptions and the reality of what you think life is.  You may see other people in relationships and you’re still single and ask, what am I doing wrong?  Why am I not in a relationship?  Or you might see people in jobs that they love, and you hate your job?  Why can’t I love my job?  The answer is that you can.  You can experience that type of life.  You can’t become a different person, but you can.  You have the power to make things different if you want to, but this goes back to the matter of choice.

You should start with a period of reflection.  Examine your life.  How did you end up here?  The second question is more complicated, why did you get here?  So back to the relationship example, maybe the answer is that someone else isn’t able to love you if you don’t love yourself.  Or maybe you can’t see that people already love you, but you don’t allow it to come through your walls.

The job example.   Maybe you’re not doing the right job.   You dream of doing something else, but you need to take a leap and start pursuing it.

What we resist persists.  We keep being shown lessons until we start to see the truth.  Until we start to act.  Only then can we truly begin to change our lives.

You’re being shown these things for a reason.  You can have a different life.  But what life would be yours?  It will be based on you and your experiences.

What are you being shown that your life could be like?  Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

What Have You Learned?

It’s October!  The kids have gone back to school.  Here in New England, the leaves have changed color.  Although there seems to be more on the ground than we usually have this time of year.  The air conditioners have come out and fall is here.

Fall is a time for reflection.  To look at what you’ve accomplished and what you still need to do.  Maybe you need to sort through your clothes and get rid of those that no longer fit.  Or maybe it’s time to start thinking about a bigger project.  Either way, it’s the time of year to ponder these projects.  The projects don’t need to only include those that can be seen in your outer world.  Inner projects can be tackled as well.  We’re still in the astrological portal for a few more weeks where we can do things over.  If we don’t like how something turned out, we can do it differently.  This isn’t necessarily the time to move forward on those new projects, but to figure out what they are.  Maybe you’re not happy with your job.  Or you want to be in a new relationship.  The new is coming, but first, how did you end up in this place?  You may not be sure. That’s ok.  Sometimes we know and don’t like the answer. The truth is if you accept it, you can change it.

Reflecting on our lives is hard.  Sometimes we do, do, do we don’t have time to reflect.  Reflection is important.  It doesn’t have to take weeks, months, or years.

It can be something as simple as deciding that you don’t like where you ended up.  How did you end up here?  Write down some ideas and put the list down.  More ideas will come to you.  Add them to the list.  You’ll know then the time is right to formulate your plan to move forward.

You may have already started the process without realizing it.  With our lives having shifted since March, what we value may have become clear.  It’s time to live our lives based on those values.

What have you learned during your time of reflection?  Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

It’s Your Fault!

It’s not my fault, it’s yours!  I did exactly what I was supposed to do.  Here’s the thing, it’s always easier to blame others than to take responsibility, but you’re still not coming from the most empowered place.

With it being retrograde season, you’re reviewing your story.  Maybe others have blamed you for their problems in the past, or you’ve blamed others.  It’s not your responsibility to solve their problems, or theirs to solve yours.  You can help them if you choose, but you have a choice.  It’s time for people to accept responsibility for their own actions.

It's always easier to believe it’s someone else’s fault, but it doesn’t make it true.  When you pass that off on to someone else without working through it, you don’t allow yourself to grow.  You don’t become the best version of yourself.

I’ve been reminded of the lessons of responsibility and choice a lot the past few weeks and even had another reminder just before writing this.  It hurts to be someone else’s fall girl or guy.  It may even make us want to react in turn, but that isn’t the answer.  Before responding walk away and come back to it later.  Allow yourself time to process your emotions.  The only person’s choices you can truly be responsible for are your own.  You’re responsible for you.

I wish I could tell you life is easy. We’re sent here to learn lessons and given the chance to demonstrate it’s been learned.  You’re challenged until you do.  The rights and wrongs are yours to do with as you may.  You can continue ignoring what’s in front of you or you can accept your role, be responsible and start to do the work.  The choice is yours.

What do you need to be responsible for?  Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Endings are…

What do endings mean for you?  Are they happy, sad, or frustrating?  Maybe it depends on what the ending is.

If it is a death, it’s sad.  There’s the grieving process to go through and the realization that you have to find a new way forward.

There are break-ups.  Whether you are the one doing the breaking up, or the one left behind whether it be romantic or friendship.  All these factors can determine your reaction.  You may feel a sense of freedom or depression.

You could be moving.  You might be sad to be leaving one location and excited for the next chapter to begin.

There are so many different types of endings.  Endings normally involve change.  If the change is thrust upon you, you will have a different reaction to the one that you choose.

Every ending involves finding a way to have power over your life.  It’s ok to be sad, but it’s not ok to wallow in it.  You can express your emotions, and you should.  Emotions should always be let out. Don’t repress them for long periods of time.  The emotions that you’ve ignored will find a way of coming back.  It’s best to deal with them in the moment or shortly thereafter.  Set aside time to cry or be angry.  You’ll be happier that you did.

What types of endings are you experiencing in your life?  Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Review and Revise

We’re officially in another retrograde season!  Not sure whether that’s good news or bad news for you, it’s hard to tell.  You’re heading back into the past, whether you plan to or not, with an opportunity to make adjustments.

How have things been for the last 6 months?  Have you found yourself grieving or angry?  Are you sad or just don’t know what to do with yourself?  You’re not alone, no matter what you feel. All of us are there with you.  Even though we each have own little twist and it’s not exactly the same.  No one’s life is the same as another’s, but we can find similarities.  We can be kind and sympathetic to each other.  During the last 6 months there has been a lot of that missing from the world.

There are so many people who believe their way is the right way.  Are you one of them?  It’s ok if you are, but maybe it’s time to look at a different perspective.  Is it possible that there could be another way to look at it?  Just because you’ve always done something a certain way, doesn’t mean it’s the only way.  You have an opportunity to change how you look at things and see them from a new perspective, or even just listen to an opinion that’s different then yours.  No need to unfriend someone on Facebook just because you don’t agree with what they think.

There could be another side to the story than the one you’ve already heard.  It would be nice if everyone interpreted life’s events exactly as they happen, but we don’t.  Everything is interpreted through a lens.  That lens will have a bias and opinions based on past experiences.

We have the chance as individuals and the greater collective to look at our past, both recent and ancestrally to look at who we are.  How did we get here?  Do we like who we are?  If we don’t love who we are, then maybe it’s time to make some adjustments.

This is the perfect time to start the process and it’s a process.  It won’t happen overnight.  There will be adjustments along the way.  Nothing in life is perfect.  Especially us.

You have work to do, just as everyone around you does.  I certainly do.  I’m right here with you.  I’m in the trenches with you doing the work.  I’m learning to live my path, just as you are, and become a more empowered person.  This is your chance.  Seize it!

What do you need to review and revise in your life?  Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Real and Raw

Vulnerability.  A word that can absolutely terrify the best of us with its meaning. The idea of letting people see beyond the mask to the core of who we are, can create massive amounts of fear within the seemingly strong.

To open up and tell someone what we’ve been keeping to ourselves.  To reveal our shame, our guilt, our fears and be real can be challenging to say the least.  It could be one of the hardest things to do.  To walk up to someone and say how you feel, takes a tremendous amount of courage.  To say this no longer works for me.  To truly take a stand and be raw.  It’s ok to be afraid in the moment, but don’t let the fear stop you from taking the action.

Stand in your own power.  If someone else doesn’t agree, know that you spoke your truth.  If didn’t go the way you hoped, but it will be ok.  DO NOT and I repeat DO NOT abuse your power or force someone else to see things your way.  There is way too much of that in our world right now.  Others have a right to stand for their own principles.  Be kind in the moment.  You can be sad or frustrated later.  You should not take out those emotions on others.  If you have it’s ok.  You can do it differently next time.  You can apologize for your actions.

Each one of us needs to learn to stand strong in who we are.  If you already do, great, but remember it’s a practice.  You have to continue.  You have to do the work.  It’s easier to see the negative, than the positive.  It’s easier to lash out than to see our own shortcomings.

But always remember to be true to you.  If you can be real and vulnerable, do.  You can truly make an impact.

How are you being real and vulnerable today?  Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.