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I Don’t Want to Be Me

Do you ever have days where you want to be someone else?  Anyone else?  You want to live a life that’s easier?  Most of us do at some point, but what does it mean.  That depends.

Do you have feelings of jealousy or envy?  You want what they have.  They seem to have a picture-perfect life.  Even those people who seem to have it all together, experience pain.  They may be deeply in debt.  Things aren’t always what they seem.

You want to live a life that’s easier?  The question again is why?  Some of us have chosen more challenging lives for a reason, but again things aren’t always what they seem.

Your life is based upon your perceptions and the reality of what you think life is.  You may see other people in relationships and you’re still single and ask, what am I doing wrong?  Why am I not in a relationship?  Or you might see people in jobs that they love, and you hate your job?  Why can’t I love my job?  The answer is that you can.  You can experience that type of life.  You can’t become a different person, but you can.  You have the power to make things different if you want to, but this goes back to the matter of choice.

You should start with a period of reflection.  Examine your life.  How did you end up here?  The second question is more complicated, why did you get here?  So back to the relationship example, maybe the answer is that someone else isn’t able to love you if you don’t love yourself.  Or maybe you can’t see that people already love you, but you don’t allow it to come through your walls.

The job example.   Maybe you’re not doing the right job.   You dream of doing something else, but you need to take a leap and start pursuing it.

What we resist persists.  We keep being shown lessons until we start to see the truth.  Until we start to act.  Only then can we truly begin to change our lives.

You’re being shown these things for a reason.  You can have a different life.  But what life would be yours?  It will be based on you and your experiences.

What are you being shown that your life could be like?  Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

What Have You Learned?

It’s October!  The kids have gone back to school.  Here in New England, the leaves have changed color.  Although there seems to be more on the ground than we usually have this time of year.  The air conditioners have come out and fall is here.

Fall is a time for reflection.  To look at what you’ve accomplished and what you still need to do.  Maybe you need to sort through your clothes and get rid of those that no longer fit.  Or maybe it’s time to start thinking about a bigger project.  Either way, it’s the time of year to ponder these projects.  The projects don’t need to only include those that can be seen in your outer world.  Inner projects can be tackled as well.  We’re still in the astrological portal for a few more weeks where we can do things over.  If we don’t like how something turned out, we can do it differently.  This isn’t necessarily the time to move forward on those new projects, but to figure out what they are.  Maybe you’re not happy with your job.  Or you want to be in a new relationship.  The new is coming, but first, how did you end up in this place?  You may not be sure. That’s ok.  Sometimes we know and don’t like the answer. The truth is if you accept it, you can change it.

Reflecting on our lives is hard.  Sometimes we do, do, do we don’t have time to reflect.  Reflection is important.  It doesn’t have to take weeks, months, or years.

It can be something as simple as deciding that you don’t like where you ended up.  How did you end up here?  Write down some ideas and put the list down.  More ideas will come to you.  Add them to the list.  You’ll know then the time is right to formulate your plan to move forward.

You may have already started the process without realizing it.  With our lives having shifted since March, what we value may have become clear.  It’s time to live our lives based on those values.

What have you learned during your time of reflection?  Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

It’s Your Fault!

It’s not my fault, it’s yours!  I did exactly what I was supposed to do.  Here’s the thing, it’s always easier to blame others than to take responsibility, but you’re still not coming from the most empowered place.

With it being retrograde season, you’re reviewing your story.  Maybe others have blamed you for their problems in the past, or you’ve blamed others.  It’s not your responsibility to solve their problems, or theirs to solve yours.  You can help them if you choose, but you have a choice.  It’s time for people to accept responsibility for their own actions.

It's always easier to believe it’s someone else’s fault, but it doesn’t make it true.  When you pass that off on to someone else without working through it, you don’t allow yourself to grow.  You don’t become the best version of yourself.

I’ve been reminded of the lessons of responsibility and choice a lot the past few weeks and even had another reminder just before writing this.  It hurts to be someone else’s fall girl or guy.  It may even make us want to react in turn, but that isn’t the answer.  Before responding walk away and come back to it later.  Allow yourself time to process your emotions.  The only person’s choices you can truly be responsible for are your own.  You’re responsible for you.

I wish I could tell you life is easy. We’re sent here to learn lessons and given the chance to demonstrate it’s been learned.  You’re challenged until you do.  The rights and wrongs are yours to do with as you may.  You can continue ignoring what’s in front of you or you can accept your role, be responsible and start to do the work.  The choice is yours.

What do you need to be responsible for?  Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Endings are…

What do endings mean for you?  Are they happy, sad, or frustrating?  Maybe it depends on what the ending is.

If it is a death, it’s sad.  There’s the grieving process to go through and the realization that you have to find a new way forward.

There are break-ups.  Whether you are the one doing the breaking up, or the one left behind whether it be romantic or friendship.  All these factors can determine your reaction.  You may feel a sense of freedom or depression.

You could be moving.  You might be sad to be leaving one location and excited for the next chapter to begin.

There are so many different types of endings.  Endings normally involve change.  If the change is thrust upon you, you will have a different reaction to the one that you choose.

Every ending involves finding a way to have power over your life.  It’s ok to be sad, but it’s not ok to wallow in it.  You can express your emotions, and you should.  Emotions should always be let out. Don’t repress them for long periods of time.  The emotions that you’ve ignored will find a way of coming back.  It’s best to deal with them in the moment or shortly thereafter.  Set aside time to cry or be angry.  You’ll be happier that you did.

What types of endings are you experiencing in your life?  Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Review and Revise

We’re officially in another retrograde season!  Not sure whether that’s good news or bad news for you, it’s hard to tell.  You’re heading back into the past, whether you plan to or not, with an opportunity to make adjustments.

How have things been for the last 6 months?  Have you found yourself grieving or angry?  Are you sad or just don’t know what to do with yourself?  You’re not alone, no matter what you feel. All of us are there with you.  Even though we each have own little twist and it’s not exactly the same.  No one’s life is the same as another’s, but we can find similarities.  We can be kind and sympathetic to each other.  During the last 6 months there has been a lot of that missing from the world.

There are so many people who believe their way is the right way.  Are you one of them?  It’s ok if you are, but maybe it’s time to look at a different perspective.  Is it possible that there could be another way to look at it?  Just because you’ve always done something a certain way, doesn’t mean it’s the only way.  You have an opportunity to change how you look at things and see them from a new perspective, or even just listen to an opinion that’s different then yours.  No need to unfriend someone on Facebook just because you don’t agree with what they think.

There could be another side to the story than the one you’ve already heard.  It would be nice if everyone interpreted life’s events exactly as they happen, but we don’t.  Everything is interpreted through a lens.  That lens will have a bias and opinions based on past experiences.

We have the chance as individuals and the greater collective to look at our past, both recent and ancestrally to look at who we are.  How did we get here?  Do we like who we are?  If we don’t love who we are, then maybe it’s time to make some adjustments.

This is the perfect time to start the process and it’s a process.  It won’t happen overnight.  There will be adjustments along the way.  Nothing in life is perfect.  Especially us.

You have work to do, just as everyone around you does.  I certainly do.  I’m right here with you.  I’m in the trenches with you doing the work.  I’m learning to live my path, just as you are, and become a more empowered person.  This is your chance.  Seize it!

What do you need to review and revise in your life?  Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Real and Raw

Vulnerability.  A word that can absolutely terrify the best of us with its meaning. The idea of letting people see beyond the mask to the core of who we are, can create massive amounts of fear within the seemingly strong.

To open up and tell someone what we’ve been keeping to ourselves.  To reveal our shame, our guilt, our fears and be real can be challenging to say the least.  It could be one of the hardest things to do.  To walk up to someone and say how you feel, takes a tremendous amount of courage.  To say this no longer works for me.  To truly take a stand and be raw.  It’s ok to be afraid in the moment, but don’t let the fear stop you from taking the action.

Stand in your own power.  If someone else doesn’t agree, know that you spoke your truth.  If didn’t go the way you hoped, but it will be ok.  DO NOT and I repeat DO NOT abuse your power or force someone else to see things your way.  There is way too much of that in our world right now.  Others have a right to stand for their own principles.  Be kind in the moment.  You can be sad or frustrated later.  You should not take out those emotions on others.  If you have it’s ok.  You can do it differently next time.  You can apologize for your actions.

Each one of us needs to learn to stand strong in who we are.  If you already do, great, but remember it’s a practice.  You have to continue.  You have to do the work.  It’s easier to see the negative, than the positive.  It’s easier to lash out than to see our own shortcomings.

But always remember to be true to you.  If you can be real and vulnerable, do.  You can truly make an impact.

How are you being real and vulnerable today?  Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Hope & Faith

Hope is what leads you to make those challenging and sometimes difficult changes.  It’s what makes you strive for a better life.  It’s what makes you work through your triggers to get to your dreams.

The last few months have challenged hope to what may seem like the breaking point.  I just want things to be the way they were!  I want things to be normal!  Trying to balance the line between what is and what could be, can lead you to topple to the ground.

I hate to say this, but 2020 isn’t done with us yet.  We’re in a period of time that doesn’t happen often.  Thank goodness!  Could even be a once in a lifetime event.  But maybe not.  Either way we’re being forced to work on our issues.  Sometimes hope has taken a backseat.

In the coming months, you will need hope and faith more than ever.  The challenges and frustrations aren’t quite ready to go away.  You haven’t learned what you need to learn quite yet.

Oh, but haven’t I been through enough?  Unfortunately, the answer is no.  You are meant to step up.  You’re meant to make a difference.  There is so much more out there for you.  It’s time to tap into your hopes and dreams.  There may be times where all seems lost, and there could be more of those days to come.

Never lose hope!  It’s the thing that keeps you going.  It’s what will one day get you over the threshold and walk into your dreams.  Hope is everything, even when all seems lost.

What do you hope for?  Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Mirror, Mirror on The Wall

Mirror, Mirror on the wall, who is the fairest of them all?  This is often the way we think of mirrors.  As a way of seeing ourselves as we are, but what if there’s another use of mirrors?

Mirrors in the energy world can be used to bounce energy on to another.  It’s this use that I’m speaking of now.  In the psychological world, this phenomenon is known as projection.

As an example, do you ever complain about someone in your life being a slob?  The idea behind project is that you need to take a closer look at your own cleanliness tendencies.  You could literally be a total slob (hoarder) or you may just need to examine an area of your life.

The areas of our life that we tend to complain most about are the areas that we need to work on. As human beings, we tend to “project” these areas on to those surrounding us, typically to the most significant person in our life.

Another example, does it often feel like you have the same problems with people repeatedly.  It’s another perfect example of projection.  Sometimes you reach a point where you need to look at the common denominator.  No matter how difficult it might be to hear, sometimes you reach a point where you have to accept that it has something to do with you.

To truly grow as a person, you have to work on yourself.  Nobody is perfect.  It’s always easier to moan, complain and blame others for our problems, than to change the obvious.  It takes work and effort, but it’s well worth it to change the problem and dialogue.  It won’t normally change overnight, but yes, it can change.  So, what are you going to do about it?

What are you projecting on to others?  Let me know.  Do you want to know more about what I do?  Click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Plant the Seed

You’re headed into the next chapter in your life.  What do you want it to look like?

It’s time to plan.  You don’t need to have all of the answers.  Even brainstorming ideas on to paper is a step in that direction.

If you find yourself getting angry and frustrated, where is it happening?  Maybe you need to reset your boundaries.

If you find yourself having especially vivid dreams or even just more dreams than usual, write them down.  Start a dream journal.  They might be telling you something.

Are you seeing signs and synchronicities?  Maybe you’re in alignment with your path and it’s time to start expanding your vision.

Planting seeds in your life can take many different forms.  When you plant seeds in your garden, you must water it and care for it after it’s been placed in the ground.  You must do the same thing with your dreams for this next chapter.

You can be a person who stands in their truth and is empowered by their life.  You can do this.  Your life can be what you’ve always wanted it to be.  Think outside the box.

Frustrations can tell us where we’re off course.  I’ve had a few of them recently.  In my case, I’m doing too much.  I know it and so do those around me.  I need to cut down what I’m doing on a regular basis.  Easier said than done though.  Can I delegate tasks to someone else?  Is it temporary?  Are any of my tasks something that I can just check off a list once they’re completed?  The answers are all yes.  These are mainly short-term issues.

What about my long-term vision?  What do I want my life to look like?  I’m sure you have ideas for your own life.  Write them down.  Then start to cultivate them and care for them.  You’ll be amazed at what you come up with. 

What do you want the next chapter of your life to look like?  Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment. 

Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder

What makes an individual beautiful?  I can’t answer that question for you.  Only you can answer.  Beauty is different for every individual.

Our world is obsessed with outer beauty.  We all want to be considered attractive.  Growing up we idolize movie stars and models, who seem to be the epitome of beauty and success.  They seem to have it all, looks and money, but what if beauty is something else?  What if doing the inside work is just as important as the outside.

We spend so much time making sure that our hair and makeup look perfect before we leave the house.  You’re not alone, I’m right there with you!  There are many times where I haven’t left the house without my make-up on, especially before the pandemic.  Since the pandemic began there are many days where I don’t wear make-up and I throw my hair up into a bun.  There are other things to do and it just seems to get in the way.  It’s not that there is no longer a concern about this, but it isn’t the only thing that seems to matter.  I still do the routine a lot of days and probably will do it more often in the future, post masks, but I’ve been focused on what’s going on in the inside.

The pandemic has presented us with an opportunity.  The chance to let our inner light shine.  To move past our past and traumas to let our power out.  We should strive to be beautiful on the inside as well as the outside.

Don’t forget about it!  It’s just as important, if not more so.  Your inner light creates confidence and self-esteem that enhances your outer beauty.

Have you paid attention to your inner beauty?  Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.