Venus In Reverse

Venus, the planet of love and beauty, went retrograde on December 21, 2021, in the sign of Capricorn, where it remains in retrograde until January 29, 2022. What does that mean?
 
You’re being asked to revisit the past.  What have you learned about love? Capricorn represents your structure or foundation. What are your feelings of love based on? Depending upon whether you use the mean or the true node, the North Node is switching from Gemini to Taurus and the South Node from Sagittarius to Scorpio, which asks what wounds are rising for the surface for you to release.
 
Wounds are challenging. They can sneak up on you just when you think you’ve let them go.  I’ve been working on releasing emotional baggage for a few years now, just when I think I’m getting there, another layer rises to the surface.  I’ve been thinking about love and what it means to me now and what it has meant to me in the past.  I grew up with a lot of friends and family who I knew loved me, but an event with someone who I thought was my friend began to change what I had thought about love. Suddenly love brought pain and hurt.  As an 11-year-old, I couldn’t process what that meant.  I had trouble trusting myself. I had thought this person was my friend. How could I have been so wrong? I had trouble trusting others. Did they have ulterior motives? Were they out to get something from me? Once they got it, would they be gone?
 
It took time to put the pieces together and start to move forward. For years I lived in the pain and didn’t know how to begin.  As I approached my 30th birthday, I knew my life wasn’t what I wanted it to be.  I found Reiki. I started to heal. I started to find friends who met me on a new level. I started to open up, but along the way, I encountered betrayal again.
 
I reacted differently this time. I stopped trusting that one person instead of everyone, but I found this wound was still keeping me from moving forward.  I need to do some work. Wounds work in layers. There are layers to peel away.
 
What wound do you need to clear right now?  Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Ready or Not?

Ready or not here it comes?  2021 has been all about change.  There’s no going back to the way your life was.  Your life is going to be different moving forward.  How your life will be different is up to you.
 
2021 has given you the opportunity to build a new structure for your life.  You can see what the universe has had in store for you by looking at the world around you.  It would be nice if things could stay the way they were, but that’s not how life works.  It’s constantly evolving and changing.  You’re meant to evolve.  You’re not meant to stay in one place, although wouldn’t it be nice if you could?
 
What does 2022 have in store for you?  That’s unknown at this point.  What is known is that 2022 is a continuation of what you began in 2020 and 2021.  You’re meant to become a better and more authentic you.  There’s no more living based on what other people expect of you.  If you’re not happy, the universe is going to make it more and more difficult for you to stay stuck.  When you’re stuck, typically it’s because you’re fearful.  Fearful of what you may ask.  It could be any number of things.  You’re the only one with the answer to that question. If you don’t know, then ask for some guidance.  The universe will give you a little nudge in the right direction. 
 
The hardest part sometimes is to ask for help.  Whether it’s asking for help from your family and friends or even just the universe.  To let things unfold as they’re meant to.  You can’t push, no matter how hard you want something to happen, it can’t be forced.  There could be any number of reasons why, but you have to trust that what is meant for you cannot pass you by.  Take some time this week and start working on what you want your 2022 to look like.  Do you want a new job or someone to share it with?  Start to visualize that life and let the universe help guide you.  It will give you directions along the way, just follow the steps and begin 2022 with the intention of welcoming in what’s in your highest and best good.
 
What do you want 2022 to look like?  Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

It’s A Mistake!

I’m sure you’ve made a mistake.  The issue isn’t that you’ve made a mistake, but how have you dealt with it? Have you tried to fix the mistake, or do you just keep plowing ahead as though you haven’t made one? It could depend on the mistake.
 
This time of year, is perfect for trying to fix mistakes of the past or for forgiveness, whether it be to forgive yourself or others.  You may beat yourself up because you didn’t know something.  It’s ok that you didn’t know, the question is what do you do now that you know? 
 
There are things that you’ve learned that you had no way of knowing.  The past 18 months have been all about experiencing life in a way that you and no one else could have predicted. The life before March 2020 is gone and you can’t go back, but you can move forward and forgive for what you didn’t know.
 
Fear can stop you from living the life that you’ve dreamed.  The fear of being wrong can cause you to make mistakes. The idea that you might not be good enough to experience that dream is something that is real. After doing a lot of soul searching, you might start to feel differently. You wish that you’d known this information back before you made these choices.  You can choose again. I’m not talking about using a time machine, but you can do today what you didn’t do yesterday.  By starting to act differently, you can begin to change the mistakes of your past.
 
You do deserve to have the life that you’ve dreamed of.  You don’t have to carry the baggage of your past with you everywhere you go.  You can let it go. It doesn’t have to control you the way it always has.   This is a time for a new beginning.
 
What mistake do you want to let go of? Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment. 

What’s Rising to the Surface?

What emotions have been coming to the surface for you? Are you angry or sad or don’t know quite what to think?  The same thing keeps happening. It’s eclipse season and anything is possible.
 
The nodal axis is the process of switching from Gemini – Sagittarius to Taurus - Scorpio, from mutable to fixed. If you know your birth time, it’s a perfect time to see where Taurus and Scorpio lie in your chart.  What might be coming up for you? I’m a Gemini Rising, so Scorpio is in my 6th house (the house of daily life and health) and Taurus is in my 12th house (the house of hidden things).  The houses contain more than just this, but for simplicity purposes, we will keep it basic. Before the eclipses even start, you can start to see things shifting. My life is shifting from a focus on me (1st house) and my relationships (7th house) to what’s hidden (12th house) and my daily life (6th house). 
 
There are things from my past that I have kept hidden or didn’t know about that are starting to come up.  What has been keeping me blocked from moving forward? Where do I want to go and what is stopping me? My fears have always played the biggest role in stopping me. From the time I was a child, the dark and mysterious (Scorpio Sun) have fascinated me but stepping outside of my comfort zone and putting my trust in other people has held me back. There were a number of people that let me down and unfortunately for myself, I paid more attention to what they said to me than the people who showed me that they loved me and cared about me. For much of my life, I chose fear over love. I was too afraid to put myself out there and go for what I really wanted. In the last few years, I’ve begun to unravel that thread.  I started doing something with my life that I love. Not listening as much to what other people think about what I do, but there’s still more.  I’m having to allow people to get to know the dark and mysterious me.  I have to let people in and get to know me.
 
Like anything, this isn’t a journey that happens overnight.  It’s a process.  None of us are perfect. Not you and not me. There’s something that we’re all working on.  The question is, are you doing the work or are you allowing your past to control you? My past controlled me for a long time. More time than I would like to admit, but little by little, the past can be let go of. The emotions can be released. One day you can think about the past without breaking down into tears. You can appreciate the moments that make up a part of who you are. There may still be a sense that you wish you had realized it earlier, but it’s ok.  You can change today.
 
What is rising to the surface for you? Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Are You Feeling Alone?

Have you been feeling rather isolated lately?   Either by choice or the nature of life.  COVID-19 has changed so many people’s lives, it’s not particularly surprising that one of those maybe the feeling of isolation.
 
I have experienced isolation in many ways.  As a teenager, I was hurt by a friend and could no longer feel that I could trust people.  My method of coping was to hang out in my room and watch television.  I would live vicariously through other people’s lives, until one day I decided that it was time for me to venture back out into the world.  I still had trust issues, but the only way to move past it, is to try it, so I started trying to learn to trust people again.  It’s had its ups and downs over the years, but at least I have emerged from my room. 
 
When COVID-19 started, I returned to this pattern, but for a different reason.  The fear was still there, but it wasn’t an issue of whether I could trust people, but I was trying to protect myself and those I love.  I came out of full isolation mode in June of 2020 when I went back to work, but there was still a piece that felt that I needed to protect the people that I care about, so I went to the grocery store and to work and not too much else. 
 
Just within the last few months, I’ve started to emerge a little bit, I’m going shopping in stores again, fully masked of course.  In October, I went to my cousin’s wedding.  You either had to prove your vaccination status or provide a negative COVID test within 48 hours of the event.  I went to a hotel, with a bottle of disinfectant, just to be on the safe side, and nothing happened.  I stepped out of my comfort zone, and nothing had happened.  I started to imagine the possibilities.  Maybe life can return to some sort of normal.
 
The next week, I found out someone that I know and had encountered had come down with COVID-19.  I went back to the end of March 2020.  I quarantined in my room.  I was masked, if I had to come out and my bottle of disinfectant, went everywhere with me.  I passed 2 negative COVID tests before I emerged.  The stress that weighed on me that week is one that I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy.  All the what-ifs came to mind.  I had to protect myself and the people that I care about.
 
My story over the course of my teenage years, the past year, or the past month, maybe something that you can relate to.  It’s not unique and one that so many of you encounter.  How do you deal with the unexpected?  Do you run and hide?  Is there a reason for you to isolate and quarantine?  Either way, the result is the same.  The feeling of being alone. 
 
As an introvert, I need some time alone, but an entire week alone was a little more alone time than I bargained for.  There are people out there, that live this life every day.  It’s not the healthiest way to live and can lead to feelings of depression, even for the healthiest among us. 
 
What can you do to help someone who’s feeling alone or isolated themselves?  The answer may be felt like nothing, but human companionship is one of the necessities on this journey called life.  You need people around you to feel alive and guide you through the lessons of life.  This isn’t a time to isolate yourself from the traumas of the world, no matter how much easier it may be. 
 
If you are feeling alone, what can you do?    Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

What is Going on with Everyone?

Have you noticed that people seem to be angrier and ruder than normal lately?  There doesn’t seem to be any wiggle room anymore for compassion towards others.  People are at their wit's end and just can’t take anything else.  It’s my way or the highway.
 
Remember you always have a choice.  It may not seem like it at the time, but you do have a choice.  Lots of businesses are having to change their prices and policies to keep up with the changing times, whether it be people’s new habits or the price of doing business.  Your choice in that moment is to accept their pricing and policies as they now stand and continue doing business with them or to go somewhere else.  Sending angry emails and text messages don’t get you where you want to be.  It may feel great at that moment, but compassion will get you further.  The person that read that angry message rarely has anything to do with the change that you’re upset about.  That person is just doing the job that they’re paid to do.  All that happens is you make that person’s day more difficult.
 
It seems that a boiling point as been reached.  Are you one of the people that has been on the receiving end of someone else’s tirade, or have you been one that’s been taking your emotions out on those around you?  Either way, it probably doesn’t feel great after that initial moment.  The most helpful thing that you can do is to think before you react.  If you must respond, do it with kindness.  Respect our people’s boundaries and know there is a reason that a boundary is in place. 
 
You always have a choice in how you respond.  If you need someone else’s opinion before you respond, seek it.  Think about your response first.  If you’re having a conversation, tell the person that you need a moment to think about it and will get back to them with a response.  Always remember that even when it doesn’t seem like it you have options.  It may not be what you want, but you do have a choice.
 
What can you do to have more compassion for yourself and others?   Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Are You Being Judged?

Judgment is a challenging emotion, whether you are the one that is being judged or doing the judging.  With judgment, there tends to be a lower-level emotion associated with it, whether it be shame, guilt or blame.  If you’re feeling judged, why do you feel that way?
 
It could something as simple as having to ask a pharmacist for a test behind the counter and them giving you a look.  The person didn’t say anything, but the look in their eyes could have been the only thing that was needed to make you feel judged.  It’s normally bringing a feeling to the surface that you haven’t dealt with yet.  What’s the emotion that you need to work through?
 
On to the judgment of other people.  This one is a little more complicated.  You could be judging them for what are perceived as valid reasons.  You visit a company’s website and make the decision whether to work with them based upon what you see.  The judgments that you make may or may not be valid, but you could perceive them as being valid.  These types of judgments are made every day.  Not all judgment is bad.
 
The question for you, is what is the judgment trying to teach you?  Everything that happens is meant to teach you something.  Some big issues have been coming to the surface.  It’s time to begin the process of working through them.  So if you’ve felt judged or have judged someone else, begin to look at the reasons why. 
 
What has judgment been teaching you?  Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

You Again?

Do you ever feel like the same problem rises to the surface repeatedly?  Just when you think you might be getting past it a new layer comes up?
 
The reason is you haven’t gotten to the root of the problem.  Until you reach the root, you’re not done.
 
Trauma work is not the easiest of work to tackle, but it’s essential to growth.  To become a happier person sometimes you have to go backward.
 
You might know that something was an issue in the past, or you’re having a conversation and getting angry and upset about something you didn’t even know was a problem.  Life can slap you beside the head sometimes, but it’s how you move forward that matters.  Do you deal with the issue, or do you run and hide?
 
Running away only gets you so far.  It will continue to rise to the surface until you face it.  It will pop up at the worst possible moments.
 
Do you want to be beholden to an emotion that can control the direction of your life?  The answer is most likely no.
 
It’s time to be uncomfortable, even when you don’t want to.  It’s time to move forward.  It’s time to live your life on your terms, not on a past emotion or someone else’s expectations.
 
You’re in the last quarter of 2021, 2022 is right around the corner.  Maybe now is the time.
 
What’s rising to the surface? Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Growth Hurts!

Life seems like a challenge right now.  If it doesn’t hurt, you’re not doing it right.  Now is a time to grow and expand.  Growth hurts!
 
Think back to when you were a kid.  When you grew taller, you would be tired.   You would sleep more and eat more, but eventually everything would even out.
 
Growth in life is the same way.  It hurts.  You exercise for the first time, and it hurts the next day.  Each time you work a new muscle group, it hurts again.
 
When you’re expanding your knowledge base, there’s bound to be pain involved.  That doesn’t mean that you should run though, the universe will always find you.  The next time the lesson will be a little more complex.
 
It seems you may want things to stay the same, but that’s just not possible.  Or maybe you want someone to do the hard work for you.  That’s not an option either.
 
You came here to experience life.  Growth is a natural part of life.  You don’t just go from Point A to Point E, you must go through Points B, C, and D before you get there.
 
Even when you think you have tackled this lesson, there could be another layer to work through.  No matter how much you want to, life is a process, and it doesn’t always happen overnight.  The things that you desire the most you must work for.
 
Growth is hard, but on the other side of each obstacle.  It could be everything you’ve ever wanted.  Seeds don’t grow overnight.  It can take months or even years to get the desired result.  Keep working on it, you will get there and one day you will be in awe of how much you’ve grown.
 
What are you looking to grow? Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Can You Only See It This Way?

Do you have a set dream or vision that you can only see happen in a specific way?  It’s time to introduce some flexibility into your vision.
 
When you can only see one path, it makes it challenging for the universe to help things along.  Things rarely happen in the exact way we envision them.
 
This is a time to release your expectations.  Things don’t always happen how you expect.  What happens then?  Disappointment.  Beating yourself up.  Wondering what happened?  Where did I go wrong?  You do down this rabbit hole that can be challenging to dig yourself out of.
 
Letting go of expectations isn’t easy.  They seem to happen quite naturally.  Letting of anything can be complicated but may be necessary to make the result a reality. 
 
The process of manifestation doesn’t always work how you expect.  Emotions get in the way.  Reality gets in the way.  Other people get in the way.  The list goes on.
 
Cut the ties to your expectations.  In whatever way best serves you.  There is no right way.
 
This doesn’t mean that you don’t try to work towards your vision.  The path will begin the journey.  Follow the clues.  Follow the signs.  Trust your intuition.  And be open to what presents itself.
 
How are you going to release expectations? Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.