Forward March!

Have you been waiting for the energy to feel right to move forward?  This is the time to start taking action.  You’ve had the opportunity to get clarity on your plans.  You’ve been learning lessons.  You’ve even experienced some situations a couple of times now, but most of us haven’t felt like we can move forward.  There was always something that held you back.
 
All the inner planets (Mercury, Venus, Mars, Jupiter, and Saturn) are now out of retrograde.  Pluto is also moving direct again.  Only Uranus and Neptune are still in retrograde.
 
With Mars now moving direct you can start to put your plans into place.  You can make headway with all those things that you’ve been wanting to do.
 
So much of this year has felt like our lives are on pause.  COVID has put a damper on the ways that we celebrate and has changed our everyday lives.  We can’t do things the way we did.  Our holidays are going to be different.  Nothing is what it was, but we finally have the opportunity to move forward if we choose.  You have the choice.  The choice doesn’t mean that you can stall what’s happening around you, but you can decide to move forward or stay still.  I wish I could say that you can move back in time, but life doesn’t work that way.
 
Whether you move forward today, tomorrow, next week or next month doesn’t make a lot of difference, but forward momentum is good.  I know that change can feel terrifying at times.  There are big changes I’m still making in my own life.  Fear is coming to the surface.  But remember the only way to overcome fear is to face it.  You have to face it head-on for it to lose its own power.
 
So, this week face your fears and move forward in some area of your life.  Even if it seems small.
 
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Into the Unknown

You’re in uncharted territory right now. Don’t worry you’re not alone. Who could have predicted any of this? But let’s take it as any opportunity l. It’s any opportunity to take care of yourself while answers come.
 
So, what does that mean for you? I can give you some suggestions. Maybe stay from anything that is speculative. That could mean news, it could mean Facebook or large group gatherings (which with COVID shouldn’t be happening).
 
Try and pay attention to your body. When you start to feel anxious or overwhelmed take a step back. It’s ok to say that I can have this conversation right now and step away. We all must do what we can to stay in a good frame of mind while we wait for answers. Like anything clarity will come but it doesn’t always happen our timetable.
 
It’s not always our choice. It would be so much easier if it was. When we first step into the unknown it can bring up a variety of emotions but the most likely one is fear. Fear can paralyze you and keep you from taking the steps you must do.
 
It sounds so simple but don’t take this piece of advice for granted. Take a breath and step away. Allow yourself to recenter and come back to it later. That’s it! When we have an opportunity to reflect, we can look at a situation differently than when we’re in an emotion. Any emotion!
 
Take care of yourself during this challenging time. Life will still be waiting for you when it’s over.
 
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How’s that Working for You?

A new world is waiting for you, but are you too afraid to walk through the door?  It’s okay!  It’s not too late to reset what you’re doing and try something different.

A new life, a new world is starting to come through, but you have to be willing to open the door.  When you’re afraid, there’s a tendency to cling to what’s familiar.  Everybody does it, but on occasion you need to try the new and see what works.

You might think you won’t like it.  You finally break down and try it.  Think of food.  It might confirm that you don’t like it.  At least you tried and it’s not for you.  Or maybe you tried it and were wrong all those years.  You want to try more.

You’re on the precipice of great changes, but you have to be willing to try.  Trying new things can be hard and difficult, but if you don’t you could be missing out on something special.

It’s easy to kick the can down the road and try later, but what if you took the time now?  You could be that much further along in the process.

2020 has been hard and you’ve had a lot of your misconceptions thrown in your face.  But what you done about it?  Have you tried or are you still holding on?  Could it work for you or not?  It’s hard to say, but you will never know if you don’t try.

Looking at life through a new lens can be hard.  You have to unravel your life and look at it as though you had something to do with where you’ve ended up.  You can’t blame everything that’s going wrong on someone else.  Only you and you alone can try something new and see how it goes.  What’s the worst that can happen?

Your visions from your past might not align with where you’re going.  It’s okay to evolve and become a different person.  Things don’t always work out the way we expect, but they work out how they should.

What’s something new that you’re going to try?  Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

What Have You Learned?

It’s October!  The kids have gone back to school.  Here in New England, the leaves have changed color.  Although there seems to be more on the ground than we usually have this time of year.  The air conditioners have come out and fall is here.

Fall is a time for reflection.  To look at what you’ve accomplished and what you still need to do.  Maybe you need to sort through your clothes and get rid of those that no longer fit.  Or maybe it’s time to start thinking about a bigger project.  Either way, it’s the time of year to ponder these projects.  The projects don’t need to only include those that can be seen in your outer world.  Inner projects can be tackled as well.  We’re still in the astrological portal for a few more weeks where we can do things over.  If we don’t like how something turned out, we can do it differently.  This isn’t necessarily the time to move forward on those new projects, but to figure out what they are.  Maybe you’re not happy with your job.  Or you want to be in a new relationship.  The new is coming, but first, how did you end up in this place?  You may not be sure. That’s ok.  Sometimes we know and don’t like the answer. The truth is if you accept it, you can change it.

Reflecting on our lives is hard.  Sometimes we do, do, do we don’t have time to reflect.  Reflection is important.  It doesn’t have to take weeks, months, or years.

It can be something as simple as deciding that you don’t like where you ended up.  How did you end up here?  Write down some ideas and put the list down.  More ideas will come to you.  Add them to the list.  You’ll know then the time is right to formulate your plan to move forward.

You may have already started the process without realizing it.  With our lives having shifted since March, what we value may have become clear.  It’s time to live our lives based on those values.

What have you learned during your time of reflection?  Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Endings are…

What do endings mean for you?  Are they happy, sad, or frustrating?  Maybe it depends on what the ending is.

If it is a death, it’s sad.  There’s the grieving process to go through and the realization that you have to find a new way forward.

There are break-ups.  Whether you are the one doing the breaking up, or the one left behind whether it be romantic or friendship.  All these factors can determine your reaction.  You may feel a sense of freedom or depression.

You could be moving.  You might be sad to be leaving one location and excited for the next chapter to begin.

There are so many different types of endings.  Endings normally involve change.  If the change is thrust upon you, you will have a different reaction to the one that you choose.

Every ending involves finding a way to have power over your life.  It’s ok to be sad, but it’s not ok to wallow in it.  You can express your emotions, and you should.  Emotions should always be let out. Don’t repress them for long periods of time.  The emotions that you’ve ignored will find a way of coming back.  It’s best to deal with them in the moment or shortly thereafter.  Set aside time to cry or be angry.  You’ll be happier that you did.

What types of endings are you experiencing in your life?  Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Lights! Camera! Action!

Have you been holding out on making changes?  It doesn’t have to be because of the Coronavirus, but it could be.  It could be as simple as you’re not sure quite yet what you want to change.

You can always start out with something simple.  Getting yourself back on track.  Maybe your routine has been disrupted.  Let’s be honest.  Whose hasn’t?  Now is a great time to get back on track.

My mind has been wandering a lot to exercise.  I’ve been researching exercise programs.  About 9 years ago, I started an exercise routine and maintained it for about 4 years.  I lost 85 lbs. in the process and felt great!  One day I walked down the hill and twisted my ankle.  I wasn’t able to put pressure on it and I lost my momentum.  Once I was able to stand on it, I didn’t have the same energy for exercise.  I was nervous about reinjuring my ankle.  I tried different routines, but I didn’t have a rhythm anymore.  I pondered doing the same routine but had loaned the DVDs to someone and they were lost. 

It's time for me to get back in a rhythm.  I’m just about ready to sign up.  I have most of the logistics worked out in my head and I’m running out of excuses.  It’s time for me to take action!

We all start things with the best of intentions and stop for any number of reasons.  Maybe our timing is off.  Maybe the energy isn’t right.  The question is do you take the leap and go for it.  The energies aren’t going away anytime soon.  If anything, the intensity is only going to go up.  Th energies the last few weeks have been insane.  I don’t know quite yet what they’ll feel like, but we’re about to find out.  The sooner we move, the easier they are to handle.

Where do you need to create movement in your life? Let me know.  Do you want to know more about what I do?  Click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Becoming You

What if you aren’t who you thought you were?  Unfortunately, traumatic events can make us not want to be hurt again, so we start to hold a part of ourselves back.  We don’t show who we are and allow our authentic self to shine through.

Having spent a good portion of the last 9 years or so working through trauma has now led me to the point of I thought I knew who I was but there’s more.  I was looking at pictures and I found one from about the age of 4 that has always spoken to me.  What is it about that one picture?  I’m starting to think it’s my authentic self speaking to me.  Helping me.  Guiding me back to the person I’m meant to be.

Nothing that I’ve done has been for not.  It has led me to this point.  I could say the same thing to you.  Everything that you’ve done has led you to this point.  The question is what do you do next?  Do you continue to play it safe or step up?  How do you move forward?

Becoming who you were meant to be is challenging.  We can doubt ourselves and not know which way to go.  So what do we do?  There are variations for each of us.  I tend to take the big picture and break it down into small pieces.  You may jump right in.  Neither one is right nor wrong.  It’s all about who we are.

All these energies are forcing us to review our story.  Who have we been and who do we want to become?  Who are we?  What do we value?  Does our day-to-day life demonstrate what we value?  Maybe you’re reviewing this list of questions and decide that you’re good.  That’s great!  You’ve probably done a lot of work on yourself to reach that place, but what if you’re not?  Becoming the person you’re meant to be can present it’s own challenges, but when you finally know who you are, there’s nothing better.

Who do you want to be? Let me know.  Do you want to know more about what I do?  Click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

It’s Time to Learn and Listen

These past weeks have taught us a lot about the world, the United States and ourselves.  There’s so much we don’t know; I’m included in this statement.  While scrolling through posts on Facebook, I read something that jumped out from the headlines.  There’s racism in all of us.  The first thing I wanted to do was deny that statement, but the more I pondered it, the more I had to admit there it’s true.

Racism has been present since the time the United States was founded.  Slavery has been a part of this country from the beginning in some form.  We had a Civil War to outlaw slavery, but it never really ended.  The people found ways around it.  We had the Civil Rights Movement, but again people found ways to continue with their beliefs.  Confronting our beliefs is one of the hardest things to do in life.

I grew up in the State of Maine.  To put it simply, there isn’t a lot of diversity.  For the few that were of a different race, they stood out.  This was my limited exposure as a child.  Even now most of the people I come across look like me.  I had never thought about the concept of “white privilege” until recently, which in of itself tells something about my privilege.

I didn’t agree with so many things happening in the United States, but I cried tears of hope when we elected our first black president.  I hoped that things could change.  While there was a portion of the population that was different, there was a portion that wasn’t about to let the old way of life go.

The universe has a way of repeating messages until we can see what we didn’t want to see. Hopefully, we’re starting to receive the message.  I’ve been searching my own soul.  I cried as I watched officers of the law tear gas protestors in our nation’s capital on live television and wondered how did we get to this point.

Our nation has an opportunity to be different, but first we must confront our past.  We have been part of the problem, whether we want to or not.  Racism is present whether we agree with it or not.  But how do we move forward?  I don’t have all of the answers, but two responses that I keep getting are community and listening.

Growing up I lived in a neighborhood, a very small one I’ll admit, but my neighbors knew my name.  I’d walk to school; people would wave and knew who I was.  I knew the names of the police officers.  I knew that if I did something wrong, someone was going to tell my parents.  I still live in this same town and it’s not the same place.  I don’t know all of my neighbor’s names. I don’t know our police by name.  I don’t know the people in our community.

Our communities are no longer part of our joys and sorrows.  We don’t know what people need.  We lost community along the way.  When we know our neighbors and who they are as people, we’re less likely to vilify them based upon our perceptions.  It’s not an easy undertaking but rebuilding the foundation of an entire country isn’t either.

I want to believe that there’s good in everyone.  Some days are harder than others.  I hope that people aren’t beyond redemption.  I hope that we can change the narrative and listen to what our neighbors need.  The best thing I can do right now with my white privilege is to say I don’t know the answers, but I’m ready to learn and to listen.  I don’t know the people in my community, but I’m ready to at least learn your names.  I’m ready to do better.  I’m ready to grow and to know that it’s going to take time.  Growth can be a painful process but there’s something each one of us can learn.

What have you learned or need to learn?  Let me know.  Do you want to know more about what I do?  Click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

What Is Normal?

According to Merriam-Webster, the word normal means “conforming to a type, standard, or regular pattern; according with, constituting, or not deviating from a norm, rule or principle.” 

We use this word a lot during our everyday lives.  Especially right now.  People want their “normal” way of life.  People are creatures of habit.  We’re not particularly fond of change, unless it’s one of our choosing.  We want things our way.

Growing up I just wanted to be “normal”.  I wanted to be like everyone else.  I hated being different.  I hated that I had to go to occupational therapy and the other kids didn’t.  I spent my life trying to be like everyone else.  It took me 25 years to learn that wasn’t an option.  Every person is different.  There is no normal.   What if I said that especially applies to now?

You can have a normal day.  Even during a pandemic, we are establishing new patterns.  We have new habits, but we can’t go back to what it was.  It’s just not possible.  You can’t unlearn something.  We can’t redo yesterday, it’s in the past.  It’s the same thing with our normal.

Even going back to work, it’s different.  It’s not the same.  We can’t unhear what we’ve heard.  People are still afraid, and they have a right to be.  Even when the curve has started to decrease, people are going to be hesitant.  There’s a possibility of a new normal for each of us.  A new routine, but the old one’s gone.

It's strange how even living during a pandemic, a new normal emerges.  New habits. New routines.  New ways forward.  It’s ok to miss what was.  You can miss the simpler times, but things have changed.  Change happens and it’s meant to.  We’re meant to grow and evolve.  This is part of our evolution.  Let’s grow together!

How has your normal changed?  Let me know.  Do you want to know more about what I do?  Click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Is This Your Best?

Are you doing the best you can right now?  If the answer is yes, then you have nothing to worry about.  Growing up were you one of the kids whose parents accepted their grades if you did the best you could or the one whose parents expected perfection?

Perfection is a challenging trait to overcome.  It could have been ingrained in us by our parents or something we learned.   Either way striving to be perfect can prevent us from thriving in challenging circumstances.  Perfection can never be obtained.  Human beings aren’t perfect.  We’re flawed.  We have problems.  It’s our problems that teach us on this journey called life.

You could wake up in the morning and your plans could be completely blown apart by 9 am.  I’ve been there.  I bet you have too.  Things don’t always work out as we have planned.  Life can get in the way.  But, it’s ok.  Give yourself permission to say it’s ok.  If you did your best, then it’s ok.

For most of my life, I strove for perfection.  What did it get me?  I was never truly happy with myself.  I wanted to be better.  I would question everything that happened.  While I still do these things, my motive has shifted.  I want them to learn more.  I want to see myself grow.  I no longer want to use it as a mask for what others see.  However, I also know this is a process and I can’t change comfortably overnight.  The first thing I had to learn was that I was doing the best I could and to learn to be ok with that way of thinking.  It took me time.  I’m still a work in progress, but I’m doing the best I can.

As a result, my self-confidence has gone up.  I feel better myself. I’ve tried things I never thought I would.  I’ve learned to care less about what others think of me.  I’ve given myself permission to do the best I can.  That’s the best thing somedays that any of us can do.

Are you doing the best you can?  Let me know.  Do you want to know more about what I do?  Click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.