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Look for the Miracle

If any year feels like you could use a miracle, it would be 2020. Christmas is a time for miracles!

Have you ever experienced a miracle? When the odds are against you, but somehow, some way, things end up ok.

When I was a teenager, I got to witness a Christmas miracle from the sidelines. At Christmas, my grandparents and great aunt would come to celebrate at our house. For some reason that year, we were at my grandparents’ home. Her sister called on Christmas Eve to let us know her daughter’s husband had been taken to the Emergency Room. My grandmother was hard of hearing, so all her conversations were on speakerphone. The odds weren’t good. He only had a 25% chance of surviving an aneurysm. Somehow, someway, he is still with us. All the people that needed to be there for him to survive were.

That Christmas has stuck with me for more than 20 years now. I don’t remember what I received for gifts or what we ate, but I remember the miracle we received.

This year’s Christmas is going to different for a number of reasons. It won’t make it any less special. It could be a year that stands out. A year where you appreciate what’s around you.

We always seem to want what we can’t have. It’s part of human nature. This is a time for gratitude, joy, and the unexpected miracles that can come our way.

Miracles wouldn’t be what they are if they happened every day. The Spirit of Christmas, whether you celebrate it or not, is full of magic. You must look for it, though.

The days are shorter, and it gets dark early, but with the darkness comes Christmas light displays and candles in the window.

If you haven’t decorated yet, it could be for so many reasons. People are more depressed this time of year. We miss what isn’t with us, but what if it is? Magic and miracles are all around you. No matter what your feels are during this season. Maybe this year, everything changes for the better. You don’t know if you aren’t looking.

Look for the miracles. They aren’t always what they seem. But they are there. Let’s end the year on a positive note.

What miracles have you witnessed? Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

What Type of Person Are You?

Who are you? Are you an impulsive person who acts before you think? You see something then you grab it. Or are you the person you’ll ponder something until it seems like you’re being forced to make a decision. It would seem like the ideal would be to be somewhere in the middle with a sense of balance in your emotions.

This is holiday time, so retailers are counting on the impulsive side of you. The part of you that does, I want it. I must have it and I want it now. Retailers aren’t looking for the person who takes 6 months to make a decision.

I worked in a grocery store for more than 6 years. They base the layout of the grocery store on impulse shoppers and capitalizing on that emotion.

Your inbox gets flooded with sales offers. 50% off your purchase. For the impulse person, it can be a challenge to see how much you can save.

The other type of person, he or she ponders the same purchase day after day, week after week. Until they’re finally ready to make that purchase. You can drive those around you crazy while you make your decision.

You don’t really want to be either type of person in this case. You want a balanced approach. You want to educate yourself to make the decision and then make the decision. This could take a few hours or a few days depending on the decision.

What do you need to do to feel confident in your decision? There’s a reason why experts tell you to sleep on it. Let it sit for a couple of days and come back to it.

Decisions that take too long to make, may never happen. Decisions that are made impulsively can lead to an accumulation of things you don’t need.

Decisions are important. They have the possibility to changing the course of your life, but it’s important to make one.

What decision do you need to make right now? Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

It’s the Most Wonderful Time of the Year

Normally this is the time of year where the holiday season kicks into full swing! We’ve had Thanksgiving and Black Friday. In my household, the Christmas decorations have gone up.

Christmas parties are on the calendar. It’s time to celebrate with our friends and family. But this year, everything’s different. The regular traditions you’ve always known aren’t happening. Every day the COVID numbers go up more. You’ve had to make hard decisions about your values. Is it safe to spend time around all your family? Is it safe to travel home?

There are so many questions and very few answers. The one area that it seems to point back to is what do you value? Do you value stuff over the people in your life? Sometimes the little things can mean a lot more than you thought, like getting a homemade card or a lollipop from a child. Those gestures can take on a different meaning, especially this year.

For a long time, I accumulated lots of stuff (clothes, movies, music, and books). I would rush out on Tuesday to buy the newest release. I didn’t know it at the time, but I was trying to fill a void with things. Over the years I’ve been working at removing the void. I still have stuff to get rid of, but that’s for another post.

2020 has forced me to examine what do I value? I had to cut a lot of expenses that seemed like they brought me value. And for a time, they did. I had outgrown them and was having trouble cutting the cord. Others, I thought things would change and I might be able to keep them while everything got sorted out. Some hard choices have been made.

There are still hard choices to make. Some get pushed back because we aren’t ready to make, others get pushed in our face until we make it.

You have the right to choose what you value. You’re the only one who can make it. It’s not an easy time for so many people in the world. It’s easy to lose sight of what’s important. This holiday season remember what you value. It may look different than before but’s not any less important.

What do you value this holiday season? Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Forward March!

Have you been waiting for the energy to feel right to move forward? This is the time to start taking action. You’ve had the opportunity to get clarity on your plans. You’ve been learning lessons. You’ve even experienced some situations a couple of times now, but most of us haven’t felt like we can move forward. There was always something that held you back.

All the inner planets (Mercury, Venus, Mars, Jupiter, and Saturn) are now out of retrograde. Pluto is also moving direct again. Only Uranus and Neptune are still in retrograde.

With Mars now moving direct you can start to put your plans into place. You can make headway with all those things that you’ve been wanting to do.

So much of this year has felt like our lives are on pause. COVID has put a damper on the ways that we celebrate and has changed our everyday lives. We can’t do things the way we did. Our holidays are going to be different. Nothing is what it was, but we finally have the opportunity to move forward if we choose. You have the choice. The choice doesn’t mean that you can stall what’s happening around you, but you can decide to move forward or stay still. I wish I could say that you can move back in time, but life doesn’t work that way.

Whether you move forward today, tomorrow, next week or next month doesn’t make a lot of difference, but forward momentum is good. I know that change can feel terrifying at times. There are big changes I’m still making in my own life. Fear is coming to the surface. But remember the only way to overcome fear is to face it. You have to face it head-on for it to lose its own power.

So, this week face your fears and move forward in some area of your life. Even if it seems small.

Where are you moving forward? Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

R-E-S-P-E-C-T

Respect. Something that we all want from others towards us, but do we always give it to those around us?

The world around us seems to be chaos and there doesn’t seem to be a lot of respect in the world. We have people name-calling and speaking over each other. People who don’t care what others have to say. The only person whose opinion matters is their own. Does that sound like a world where we respect each other? It certainly doesn’t sound like one to me.

So, what do we do? It can be a challenge because we must act differently from the energy around us. We must act from a neutral place and not a reactive one. We have to be the better person. It’s possible! The U.S. election is a few weeks away. The energy surrounding it isn’t going to get better anytime soon. If anything, it could get worse.

We are better than this! We can rise above the chaos, and get back to living in a place where we care for our fellow neighbor. A world where we help each other. It may sound a little idealistic at this point, but the way things are right now, aren’t okay. This shouldn’t be how we live. We are better than this and we can be better than this!

You may be one of the people not acting this way and kudos to you, but I’m sure you know someone that is. It could be a friend or family member. You may not always agree with what they say or do, but do you still care for them? Respect isn’t something that’s just given, it’s earned. When we or those around us act in this way, that in and of itself is disrespectful. Respect is a two-way street. It’s not given if you don’t earn it.

Live your life as though you’re trying to earn the respect from those around you. Be like those you want to be like. Who do you admire? Be like them.

Maybe someday we’ll get to a better place. A place where we can respect each other, but right now a lot of us have work to do. We can’t change things if we don’t respect the process. Use the process we have and let’s start to change the outcome. We can do this!

What don’t you respect right now? Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

What Have You Learned?

It’s October! The kids have gone back to school. Here in New England, the leaves have changed color. Although there seems to be more on the ground than we usually have this time of year. The air conditioners have come out and fall is here.

Fall is a time for reflection. To look at what you’ve accomplished and what you still need to do. Maybe you need to sort through your clothes and get rid of those that no longer fit. Or maybe it’s time to start thinking about a bigger project. Either way, it’s the time of year to ponder these projects. The projects don’t need to only include those that can be seen in your outer world. Inner projects can be tackled as well. We’re still in the astrological portal for a few more weeks where we can do things over. If we don’t like how something turned out, we can do it differently. This isn’t necessarily the time to move forward on those new projects, but to figure out what they are. Maybe you’re not happy with your job. Or you want to be in a new relationship. The new is coming, but first, how did you end up in this place? You may not be sure. That’s ok. Sometimes we know and don’t like the answer. The truth is if you accept it, you can change it.

Reflecting on our lives is hard. Sometimes we do, do, do we don’t have time to reflect. Reflection is important. It doesn’t have to take weeks, months, or years.

It can be something as simple as deciding that you don’t like where you ended up. How did you end up here? Write down some ideas and put the list down. More ideas will come to you. Add them to the list. You’ll know then the time is right to formulate your plan to move forward.

You may have already started the process without realizing it. With our lives having shifted since March, what we value may have become clear. It’s time to live our lives based on those values.

What have you learned during your time of reflection? Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

It’s Your Fault!

It’s not my fault, it’s yours! I did exactly what I was supposed to do. Here’s the thing, it’s always easier to blame others than to take responsibility, but you’re still not coming from the most empowered place.

With it being retrograde season, you’re reviewing your story. Maybe others have blamed you for their problems in the past, or you’ve blamed others. It’s not your responsibility to solve their problems, or theirs to solve yours. You can help them if you choose, but you have a choice. It’s time for people to accept responsibility for their own actions.

It's always easier to believe it’s someone else’s fault, but it doesn’t make it true. When you pass that off on to someone else without working through it, you don’t allow yourself to grow. You don’t become the best version of yourself.

I’ve been reminded of the lessons of responsibility and choice a lot the past few weeks and even had another reminder just before writing this. It hurts to be someone else’s fall girl or guy. It may even make us want to react in turn, but that isn’t the answer. Before responding walk away and come back to it later. Allow yourself time to process your emotions. The only person’s choices you can truly be responsible for are your own. You’re responsible for you.

I wish I could tell you life is easy. We’re sent here to learn lessons and given the chance to demonstrate it’s been learned. You’re challenged until you do. The rights and wrongs are yours to do with as you may. You can continue ignoring what’s in front of you or you can accept your role, be responsible and start to do the work. The choice is yours.

What do you need to be responsible for? Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Endings are…

What do endings mean for you? Are they happy, sad, or frustrating? Maybe it depends on what the ending is.

If it is a death, it’s sad. There’s the grieving process to go through and the realization that you have to find a new way forward.

There are break-ups. Whether you are the one doing the breaking up, or the one left behind whether it be romantic or friendship. All these factors can determine your reaction. You may feel a sense of freedom or depression.

You could be moving. You might be sad to be leaving one location and excited for the next chapter to begin.

There are so many different types of endings. Endings normally involve change. If the change is thrust upon you, you will have a different reaction to the one that you choose.

Every ending involves finding a way to have power over your life. It’s ok to be sad, but it’s not ok to wallow in it. You can express your emotions, and you should. Emotions should always be let out. Don’t repress them for long periods of time. The emotions that you’ve ignored will find a way of coming back. It’s best to deal with them in the moment or shortly thereafter. Set aside time to cry or be angry. You’ll be happier that you did.

What types of endings are you experiencing in your life? Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Real and Raw

Vulnerability. A word that can absolutely terrify the best of us with its meaning. The idea of letting people see beyond the mask to the core of who we are, can create massive amounts of fear within the seemingly strong.

To open up and tell someone what we’ve been keeping to ourselves. To reveal our shame, our guilt, our fears and be real can be challenging to say the least. It could be one of the hardest things to do. To walk up to someone and say how you feel, takes a tremendous amount of courage. To say this no longer works for me. To truly take a stand and be raw. It’s ok to be afraid in the moment, but don’t let the fear stop you from taking the action.

Stand in your own power. If someone else doesn’t agree, know that you spoke your truth. If didn’t go the way you hoped, but it will be ok. DO NOT and I repeat DO NOT abuse your power or force someone else to see things your way. There is way too much of that in our world right now. Others have a right to stand for their own principles. Be kind in the moment. You can be sad or frustrated later. You should not take out those emotions on others. If you have it’s ok. You can do it differently next time. You can apologize for your actions.

Each one of us needs to learn to stand strong in who we are. If you already do, great, but remember it’s a practice. You have to continue. You have to do the work. It’s easier to see the negative, than the positive. It’s easier to lash out than to see our own shortcomings.

But always remember to be true to you. If you can be real and vulnerable, do. You can truly make an impact.

How are you being real and vulnerable today? Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Hope & Faith

Hope is what leads you to make those challenging and sometimes difficult changes. It’s what makes you strive for a better life. It’s what makes you work through your triggers to get to your dreams.

The last few months have challenged hope to what may seem like the breaking point. I just want things to be the way they were! I want things to be normal! Trying to balance the line between what is and what could be, can lead you to topple to the ground.

I hate to say this, but 2020 isn’t done with us yet. We’re in a period of time that doesn’t happen often. Thank goodness! Could even be a once in a lifetime event. But maybe not. Either way we’re being forced to work on our issues. Sometimes hope has taken a backseat.

In the coming months, you will need hope and faith more than ever. The challenges and frustrations aren’t quite ready to go away. You haven’t learned what you need to learn quite yet.

Oh, but haven’t I been through enough? Unfortunately, the answer is no. You are meant to step up. You’re meant to make a difference. There is so much more out there for you. It’s time to tap into your hopes and dreams. There may be times where all seems lost, and there could be more of those days to come.

Never lose hope! It’s the thing that keeps you going. It’s what will one day get you over the threshold and walk into your dreams. Hope is everything, even when all seems lost.

What do you hope for? Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.