Fear - SoulHeart Intuitive Coaching

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After the events in Washington, D.C. in January, there’re seems to be a lot of blame going on. One side is saying they should be heard, there’s evidence to prove their point and the other side is saying what was said to them 4 years ago, we won let’s move on.

The major issue is that you generally like to feel that you’re right. What you believe couldn’t possibly be wrong? So, you start to defend your beliefs. You go after the person whose beliefs are different and attack. Never asking, or per chance you did ask, to see why they hold those beliefs to begin with. In truth, we seem quite polarized, but if we had an honest discussion, we might come to see we have more in common then we thought.

In order for the people of the United States to change, we need to each be willing to look at ourselves. To look at our beliefs. To listen to each other and not just to listen to respond but truly listen and hear what is being said.

Two wrongs don’t make a right. So, what is right? That’s challenging to say in a moment such as this. You could say that you should be more emphatic, and it might be a good place to start. The Golden Rule, to treat others as you wish to be treated. We’ve gotten used to being anonymous and spouting off what you believe on social media. It’s quite different if you have to look at person and see the hurt your words have caused.

You will often pick and choose facts to fit your narrative. It doesn’t make it any more or less true. You should be looking for the truth in any situation. Not simply what should be true.

Right now, the world needs a little more kindness. A little more compassion. If only you took the time to live in another’s shoes, might we make progress and not be so divided? You have a choice. Would you rather be right or understand?

Each of us needs to learn some understanding. Maybe it’s time to take a step back. Think about your words before tossing them about or use them as a weapon. Think before you speak.

How can you be a little more understanding? Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Time to Count Your Blessings

It can be challenging to even think of being thankful or counting your blessings when it appears there’s so much wrong in life. 2020 has made it difficult for even the most optimistic to find a silver lining. There is one, but you have to look harder.

What have your lessons been this year? Would you have found them if COVID hadn’t happened? Each one of you wants the world to go back to “normal”. But what does that mean? With the holiday season upon us, it’s more important than ever to find that sense of magic.

It could be that you rely on some sense of tradition. Decorating the house. Being appreciative of the people around you every day.

You can dig deeper. Maybe you have found what’s truly important. You’ve learned something about yourself that you wouldn’t have in some other way.

I have learned a lot about myself. There was a point in time that I disliked any change whatsoever. There’s still a piece of that attitude there at times. Other times I can roll with it and ask what does Spirit have in store for me? Like most of you, I don’t care for wearing a mask, but if it keeps me and those I care about safe I will continue for as long as necessary. But thanks to COVID, I have learned what’s true about my own energy and how that is seen by those around me. I have learned what I truly value and am in the process of aligning my life with those values. I don’t think I would have seen either of these without COVID.

The beginning of the year gave me the freedom to finish my empowerment certification program. I was also able to concentrate on expanding my knowledge of astrology. Still working on this and I think I always will be, but I’m ok with that. I’m starting to read charts for my family and friends, something that I wouldn’t have had the confidence to do a year ago.

To move forward this practice is essential. It can be hard to reflect, but it’s necessary. Take the time to figure out your lessons. They are so important to what 2021 has in store for you.

What lessons has 2020 blessed you with? Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

It’s the Most Wonderful Time of the Year

Normally this is the time of year where the holiday season kicks into full swing! We’ve had Thanksgiving and Black Friday. In my household, the Christmas decorations have gone up.

Christmas parties are on the calendar. It’s time to celebrate with our friends and family. But this year, everything’s different. The regular traditions you’ve always known aren’t happening. Every day the COVID numbers go up more. You’ve had to make hard decisions about your values. Is it safe to spend time around all your family? Is it safe to travel home?

There are so many questions and very few answers. The one area that it seems to point back to is what do you value? Do you value stuff over the people in your life? Sometimes the little things can mean a lot more than you thought, like getting a homemade card or a lollipop from a child. Those gestures can take on a different meaning, especially this year.

For a long time, I accumulated lots of stuff (clothes, movies, music, and books). I would rush out on Tuesday to buy the newest release. I didn’t know it at the time, but I was trying to fill a void with things. Over the years I’ve been working at removing the void. I still have stuff to get rid of, but that’s for another post.

2020 has forced me to examine what do I value? I had to cut a lot of expenses that seemed like they brought me value. And for a time, they did. I had outgrown them and was having trouble cutting the cord. Others, I thought things would change and I might be able to keep them while everything got sorted out. Some hard choices have been made.

There are still hard choices to make. Some get pushed back because we aren’t ready to make, others get pushed in our face until we make it.

You have the right to choose what you value. You’re the only one who can make it. It’s not an easy time for so many people in the world. It’s easy to lose sight of what’s important. This holiday season remember what you value. It may look different than before but’s not any less important.

What do you value this holiday season? Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Forward March!

Have you been waiting for the energy to feel right to move forward? This is the time to start taking action. You’ve had the opportunity to get clarity on your plans. You’ve been learning lessons. You’ve even experienced some situations a couple of times now, but most of us haven’t felt like we can move forward. There was always something that held you back.

All the inner planets (Mercury, Venus, Mars, Jupiter, and Saturn) are now out of retrograde. Pluto is also moving direct again. Only Uranus and Neptune are still in retrograde.

With Mars now moving direct you can start to put your plans into place. You can make headway with all those things that you’ve been wanting to do.

So much of this year has felt like our lives are on pause. COVID has put a damper on the ways that we celebrate and has changed our everyday lives. We can’t do things the way we did. Our holidays are going to be different. Nothing is what it was, but we finally have the opportunity to move forward if we choose. You have the choice. The choice doesn’t mean that you can stall what’s happening around you, but you can decide to move forward or stay still. I wish I could say that you can move back in time, but life doesn’t work that way.

Whether you move forward today, tomorrow, next week or next month doesn’t make a lot of difference, but forward momentum is good. I know that change can feel terrifying at times. There are big changes I’m still making in my own life. Fear is coming to the surface. But remember the only way to overcome fear is to face it. You have to face it head-on for it to lose its own power.

So, this week face your fears and move forward in some area of your life. Even if it seems small.

Where are you moving forward? Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

How’s that Working for You?

A new world is waiting for you, but are you too afraid to walk through the door? It’s okay! It’s not too late to reset what you’re doing and try something different.

A new life, a new world is starting to come through, but you have to be willing to open the door. When you’re afraid, there’s a tendency to cling to what’s familiar. Everybody does it, but on occasion you need to try the new and see what works.

You might think you won’t like it. You finally break down and try it. Think of food. It might confirm that you don’t like it. At least you tried and it’s not for you. Or maybe you tried it and were wrong all those years. You want to try more.

You’re on the precipice of great changes, but you have to be willing to try. Trying new things can be hard and difficult, but if you don’t you could be missing out on something special.

It’s easy to kick the can down the road and try later, but what if you took the time now? You could be that much further along in the process.

2020 has been hard and you’ve had a lot of your misconceptions thrown in your face. But what you done about it? Have you tried or are you still holding on? Could it work for you or not? It’s hard to say, but you will never know if you don’t try.

Looking at life through a new lens can be hard. You have to unravel your life and look at it as though you had something to do with where you’ve ended up. You can’t blame everything that’s going wrong on someone else. Only you and you alone can try something new and see how it goes. What’s the worst that can happen?

Your visions from your past might not align with where you’re going. It’s okay to evolve and become a different person. Things don’t always work out the way we expect, but they work out how they should.

What’s something new that you’re going to try? Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

I Don’t Want to Be Me

Do you ever have days where you want to be someone else? Anyone else? You want to live a life that’s easier? Most of us do at some point, but what does it mean. That depends.

Do you have feelings of jealousy or envy? You want what they have. They seem to have a picture-perfect life. Even those people who seem to have it all together, experience pain. They may be deeply in debt. Things aren’t always what they seem.

You want to live a life that’s easier? The question again is why? Some of us have chosen more challenging lives for a reason, but again things aren’t always what they seem.

Your life is based upon your perceptions and the reality of what you think life is. You may see other people in relationships and you’re still single and ask, what am I doing wrong? Why am I not in a relationship? Or you might see people in jobs that they love, and you hate your job? Why can’t I love my job? The answer is that you can. You can experience that type of life. You can’t become a different person, but you can. You have the power to make things different if you want to, but this goes back to the matter of choice.

You should start with a period of reflection. Examine your life. How did you end up here? The second question is more complicated, why did you get here? So back to the relationship example, maybe the answer is that someone else isn’t able to love you if you don’t love yourself. Or maybe you can’t see that people already love you, but you don’t allow it to come through your walls.

The job example. Maybe you’re not doing the right job. You dream of doing something else, but you need to take a leap and start pursuing it.

What we resist persists. We keep being shown lessons until we start to see the truth. Until we start to act. Only then can we truly begin to change our lives.

You’re being shown these things for a reason. You can have a different life. But what life would be yours? It will be based on you and your experiences.

What are you being shown that your life could be like? Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

It’s Your Fault!

It’s not my fault, it’s yours! I did exactly what I was supposed to do. Here’s the thing, it’s always easier to blame others than to take responsibility, but you’re still not coming from the most empowered place.

With it being retrograde season, you’re reviewing your story. Maybe others have blamed you for their problems in the past, or you’ve blamed others. It’s not your responsibility to solve their problems, or theirs to solve yours. You can help them if you choose, but you have a choice. It’s time for people to accept responsibility for their own actions.

It's always easier to believe it’s someone else’s fault, but it doesn’t make it true. When you pass that off on to someone else without working through it, you don’t allow yourself to grow. You don’t become the best version of yourself.

I’ve been reminded of the lessons of responsibility and choice a lot the past few weeks and even had another reminder just before writing this. It hurts to be someone else’s fall girl or guy. It may even make us want to react in turn, but that isn’t the answer. Before responding walk away and come back to it later. Allow yourself time to process your emotions. The only person’s choices you can truly be responsible for are your own. You’re responsible for you.

I wish I could tell you life is easy. We’re sent here to learn lessons and given the chance to demonstrate it’s been learned. You’re challenged until you do. The rights and wrongs are yours to do with as you may. You can continue ignoring what’s in front of you or you can accept your role, be responsible and start to do the work. The choice is yours.

What do you need to be responsible for? Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Endings are…

What do endings mean for you? Are they happy, sad, or frustrating? Maybe it depends on what the ending is.

If it is a death, it’s sad. There’s the grieving process to go through and the realization that you have to find a new way forward.

There are break-ups. Whether you are the one doing the breaking up, or the one left behind whether it be romantic or friendship. All these factors can determine your reaction. You may feel a sense of freedom or depression.

You could be moving. You might be sad to be leaving one location and excited for the next chapter to begin.

There are so many different types of endings. Endings normally involve change. If the change is thrust upon you, you will have a different reaction to the one that you choose.

Every ending involves finding a way to have power over your life. It’s ok to be sad, but it’s not ok to wallow in it. You can express your emotions, and you should. Emotions should always be let out. Don’t repress them for long periods of time. The emotions that you’ve ignored will find a way of coming back. It’s best to deal with them in the moment or shortly thereafter. Set aside time to cry or be angry. You’ll be happier that you did.

What types of endings are you experiencing in your life? Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Review and Revise

We’re officially in another retrograde season! Not sure whether that’s good news or bad news for you, it’s hard to tell. You’re heading back into the past, whether you plan to or not, with an opportunity to make adjustments.

How have things been for the last 6 months? Have you found yourself grieving or angry? Are you sad or just don’t know what to do with yourself? You’re not alone, no matter what you feel. All of us are there with you. Even though we each have own little twist and it’s not exactly the same. No one’s life is the same as another’s, but we can find similarities. We can be kind and sympathetic to each other. During the last 6 months there has been a lot of that missing from the world.

There are so many people who believe their way is the right way. Are you one of them? It’s ok if you are, but maybe it’s time to look at a different perspective. Is it possible that there could be another way to look at it? Just because you’ve always done something a certain way, doesn’t mean it’s the only way. You have an opportunity to change how you look at things and see them from a new perspective, or even just listen to an opinion that’s different then yours. No need to unfriend someone on Facebook just because you don’t agree with what they think.

There could be another side to the story than the one you’ve already heard. It would be nice if everyone interpreted life’s events exactly as they happen, but we don’t. Everything is interpreted through a lens. That lens will have a bias and opinions based on past experiences.

We have the chance as individuals and the greater collective to look at our past, both recent and ancestrally to look at who we are. How did we get here? Do we like who we are? If we don’t love who we are, then maybe it’s time to make some adjustments.

This is the perfect time to start the process and it’s a process. It won’t happen overnight. There will be adjustments along the way. Nothing in life is perfect. Especially us.

You have work to do, just as everyone around you does. I certainly do. I’m right here with you. I’m in the trenches with you doing the work. I’m learning to live my path, just as you are, and become a more empowered person. This is your chance. Seize it!

What do you need to review and revise in your life? Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Real and Raw

Vulnerability. A word that can absolutely terrify the best of us with its meaning. The idea of letting people see beyond the mask to the core of who we are, can create massive amounts of fear within the seemingly strong.

To open up and tell someone what we’ve been keeping to ourselves. To reveal our shame, our guilt, our fears and be real can be challenging to say the least. It could be one of the hardest things to do. To walk up to someone and say how you feel, takes a tremendous amount of courage. To say this no longer works for me. To truly take a stand and be raw. It’s ok to be afraid in the moment, but don’t let the fear stop you from taking the action.

Stand in your own power. If someone else doesn’t agree, know that you spoke your truth. If didn’t go the way you hoped, but it will be ok. DO NOT and I repeat DO NOT abuse your power or force someone else to see things your way. There is way too much of that in our world right now. Others have a right to stand for their own principles. Be kind in the moment. You can be sad or frustrated later. You should not take out those emotions on others. If you have it’s ok. You can do it differently next time. You can apologize for your actions.

Each one of us needs to learn to stand strong in who we are. If you already do, great, but remember it’s a practice. You have to continue. You have to do the work. It’s easier to see the negative, than the positive. It’s easier to lash out than to see our own shortcomings.

But always remember to be true to you. If you can be real and vulnerable, do. You can truly make an impact.

How are you being real and vulnerable today? Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.