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Real and Raw

Vulnerability.  A word that can absolutely terrify the best of us with its meaning. The idea of letting people see beyond the mask to the core of who we are, can create massive amounts of fear within the seemingly strong.

To open up and tell someone what we’ve been keeping to ourselves.  To reveal our shame, our guilt, our fears and be real can be challenging to say the least.  It could be one of the hardest things to do.  To walk up to someone and say how you feel, takes a tremendous amount of courage.  To say this no longer works for me.  To truly take a stand and be raw.  It’s ok to be afraid in the moment, but don’t let the fear stop you from taking the action.

Stand in your own power.  If someone else doesn’t agree, know that you spoke your truth.  If didn’t go the way you hoped, but it will be ok.  DO NOT and I repeat DO NOT abuse your power or force someone else to see things your way.  There is way too much of that in our world right now.  Others have a right to stand for their own principles.  Be kind in the moment.  You can be sad or frustrated later.  You should not take out those emotions on others.  If you have it’s ok.  You can do it differently next time.  You can apologize for your actions.

Each one of us needs to learn to stand strong in who we are.  If you already do, great, but remember it’s a practice.  You have to continue.  You have to do the work.  It’s easier to see the negative, than the positive.  It’s easier to lash out than to see our own shortcomings.

But always remember to be true to you.  If you can be real and vulnerable, do.  You can truly make an impact.

How are you being real and vulnerable today?  Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Hope & Faith

Hope is what leads you to make those challenging and sometimes difficult changes.  It’s what makes you strive for a better life.  It’s what makes you work through your triggers to get to your dreams.

The last few months have challenged hope to what may seem like the breaking point.  I just want things to be the way they were!  I want things to be normal!  Trying to balance the line between what is and what could be, can lead you to topple to the ground.

I hate to say this, but 2020 isn’t done with us yet.  We’re in a period of time that doesn’t happen often.  Thank goodness!  Could even be a once in a lifetime event.  But maybe not.  Either way we’re being forced to work on our issues.  Sometimes hope has taken a backseat.

In the coming months, you will need hope and faith more than ever.  The challenges and frustrations aren’t quite ready to go away.  You haven’t learned what you need to learn quite yet.

Oh, but haven’t I been through enough?  Unfortunately, the answer is no.  You are meant to step up.  You’re meant to make a difference.  There is so much more out there for you.  It’s time to tap into your hopes and dreams.  There may be times where all seems lost, and there could be more of those days to come.

Never lose hope!  It’s the thing that keeps you going.  It’s what will one day get you over the threshold and walk into your dreams.  Hope is everything, even when all seems lost.

What do you hope for?  Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Mirror, Mirror on The Wall

Mirror, Mirror on the wall, who is the fairest of them all?  This is often the way we think of mirrors.  As a way of seeing ourselves as we are, but what if there’s another use of mirrors?

Mirrors in the energy world can be used to bounce energy on to another.  It’s this use that I’m speaking of now.  In the psychological world, this phenomenon is known as projection.

As an example, do you ever complain about someone in your life being a slob?  The idea behind project is that you need to take a closer look at your own cleanliness tendencies.  You could literally be a total slob (hoarder) or you may just need to examine an area of your life.

The areas of our life that we tend to complain most about are the areas that we need to work on. As human beings, we tend to “project” these areas on to those surrounding us, typically to the most significant person in our life.

Another example, does it often feel like you have the same problems with people repeatedly.  It’s another perfect example of projection.  Sometimes you reach a point where you need to look at the common denominator.  No matter how difficult it might be to hear, sometimes you reach a point where you have to accept that it has something to do with you.

To truly grow as a person, you have to work on yourself.  Nobody is perfect.  It’s always easier to moan, complain and blame others for our problems, than to change the obvious.  It takes work and effort, but it’s well worth it to change the problem and dialogue.  It won’t normally change overnight, but yes, it can change.  So, what are you going to do about it?

What are you projecting on to others?  Let me know.  Do you want to know more about what I do?  Click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Plant the Seed

You’re headed into the next chapter in your life.  What do you want it to look like?

It’s time to plan.  You don’t need to have all of the answers.  Even brainstorming ideas on to paper is a step in that direction.

If you find yourself getting angry and frustrated, where is it happening?  Maybe you need to reset your boundaries.

If you find yourself having especially vivid dreams or even just more dreams than usual, write them down.  Start a dream journal.  They might be telling you something.

Are you seeing signs and synchronicities?  Maybe you’re in alignment with your path and it’s time to start expanding your vision.

Planting seeds in your life can take many different forms.  When you plant seeds in your garden, you must water it and care for it after it’s been placed in the ground.  You must do the same thing with your dreams for this next chapter.

You can be a person who stands in their truth and is empowered by their life.  You can do this.  Your life can be what you’ve always wanted it to be.  Think outside the box.

Frustrations can tell us where we’re off course.  I’ve had a few of them recently.  In my case, I’m doing too much.  I know it and so do those around me.  I need to cut down what I’m doing on a regular basis.  Easier said than done though.  Can I delegate tasks to someone else?  Is it temporary?  Are any of my tasks something that I can just check off a list once they’re completed?  The answers are all yes.  These are mainly short-term issues.

What about my long-term vision?  What do I want my life to look like?  I’m sure you have ideas for your own life.  Write them down.  Then start to cultivate them and care for them.  You’ll be amazed at what you come up with. 

What do you want the next chapter of your life to look like?  Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment. 

Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder

What makes an individual beautiful?  I can’t answer that question for you.  Only you can answer.  Beauty is different for every individual.

Our world is obsessed with outer beauty.  We all want to be considered attractive.  Growing up we idolize movie stars and models, who seem to be the epitome of beauty and success.  They seem to have it all, looks and money, but what if beauty is something else?  What if doing the inside work is just as important as the outside.

We spend so much time making sure that our hair and makeup look perfect before we leave the house.  You’re not alone, I’m right there with you!  There are many times where I haven’t left the house without my make-up on, especially before the pandemic.  Since the pandemic began there are many days where I don’t wear make-up and I throw my hair up into a bun.  There are other things to do and it just seems to get in the way.  It’s not that there is no longer a concern about this, but it isn’t the only thing that seems to matter.  I still do the routine a lot of days and probably will do it more often in the future, post masks, but I’ve been focused on what’s going on in the inside.

The pandemic has presented us with an opportunity.  The chance to let our inner light shine.  To move past our past and traumas to let our power out.  We should strive to be beautiful on the inside as well as the outside.

Don’t forget about it!  It’s just as important, if not more so.  Your inner light creates confidence and self-esteem that enhances your outer beauty.

Have you paid attention to your inner beauty?  Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Hey! It’s Dark in Here!

Does it ever feel to you like there is a battle of the light and the dark?  Were you ever scared of the dark as a child?  As adults, we’re often scared of the darkness that surrounds us, but the key to the darkness is to shine a light on it.

Shining a light on the darkness can be terrifying.  Who wants to look at something dark and negative?  But when you do, it loses its power.  You don’t want to explore your shame, your guilt, your grief, or your fears because of what it could tell you.  It’s hard to go to those dark places and reveal the parts of ourselves that we never want to be seen.  But you know that if you don’t, the darkness wins!  The only way to defeat the dark is to speak it aloud.  When you do, it slowly loses its power.

You want to have things like love and joy in your life, right?  You don’t want to be swamped by the darkest feelings that we can experience as human beings. 

If given the choice, choose the light.  If you’re in the dark, find a way out.  Empowerment is all about finding a way out of the dark into the light.

You might believe that darkness is all around us and that may seem to be the case, but it doesn’t have to be.  You can be a beacon of light shining for the rest of the world to see.

You can bring your past from the depths to the light where it can have little impact on you anymore.  You don’t have to live in the dark.  You can step into the light.  When it feels like the darkness is getting close again, take action, and step back into the light.

All of this is easier said than done, especially in the beginning.  The first step is always the hardest.  You are here to have an experience and learn something about yourself.  You’re stronger than you think.  You can step into the light.

What darkness do you wish to release from your life?  Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

I’m So Tired

Have you been finding it hard to get up in the morning?  Or you could be finding yourself thinking, I’m so tired of this story.  Or maybe you’re literally falling asleep.

The energy of what you’ve been doing that may no longer work for you is starting to wear you down.  It’s time for something new and different, but sometimes you don’t know how to get there or are afraid to try.
Maybe you’ve noticed that you’ve run this movie before, and you can change the ending this time.  It’s an old story that you just want to stop.  You didn’t like the film the last time it was on and you certainly don’t like it now.

The universe is trying to get your attention.  You can change.  You can have a different ending.  You can shift your journey to a new path.  You’re being reminded that this story no longer works for you.  But how do you change the script?

It’s challenging when we’re right in the middle of the story to see our options.  We don’t like it, but what else can we do?  Sometimes you just must leap into alternative storylines.  Give it a try!  Maybe it will work.  Maybe it won’t, but you don’t know if you don’t at least try.

Maybe you’ve been doubting your intuition, and something happens that you can’t ignore.  It feels right, but you believe it can’t be right.  It just can’t be.  Ask someone else what they think.  You could totally surprise yourself.  You don’t know if you don’t ask.

One of my teachers said to respond to life’s questions with, “I don’t know”.  Our patterns can become a part of us, where we think we know what will happen.  When you learn what someone else thinks, you could be completely surprised by the response.

Being tired is an indicator.  It’s time to let go.  Say you don’t know want to see what happens.  Yes, giving up control can be terrifying at first, but after some time it can be liberating.  Try something different, even if it’s taking a different route to the grocery store.  See what happens.

What are you tired about?  Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment. 

Curveball. . .

Do you ever feel like you finally have your life all figured out?  And then what happens?  Life throws you a curveball.

With the Eclipse energies finally leaving and Mercury going direct, maybe some things could feel like they were coming together, but there are still multiple planets in retrograde and Mercury is still in its shadow, so the answer is not yet.  A cycle is still ending for you.  Clarity is coming in, but there are still a few challenges to work through.  Something is still waiting for you to discover.

What have you been working on?  Maybe you’re on that path to self-empowerment, but there are some tweaks needed.  And let’s be honest, on the road to feeling your power there will always be tweaks.  Life is never constant.  It evolves and changes.  Life doesn’t stay still.  It can’t.  Just like everything around us, our lives are in motion.  There’s always going to be more to discover until the day we depart this Earth.  You have more to learn and so do I.

For almost the past 10 years, I’ve been discovering my energy.  What is my energy?  If you haven’t gone down this rabbit hole yet, it can be really cool!  But a few people who were a part of the path I was on, didn’t seem to follow my values.  I discovered that when I can’t get a computer to run, or I throw an electric breaker in the house for some mysterious reason; it could be there’s some interference happening within me.  Just like a car needs a tune-up, so did I.  We all need an energy tune-up occasionally.  That’s part of what can make energy work fascinating.

So, if life has been throwing you a few too many curveballs, maybe its time for a tune-up or just take some time to check-in and see what your body needs.  Challenges happen for so many reasons.  They don’t always occur for the same reason, but there is one.  Tap into yourself and see what you find out.

What challenges are occurring in your life?  Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Ask For Help?

Asking for help, what is that?  I’m sure you’re a person who considers themselves to be fairly independent.  A person who can do things on their own.  However, there comes a point in time when you have to reach out to someone else to help you.

You’re not meant to walk through life on your own.  You’re supposed to have people accompany you on life’s journey.  You have friends and family.  Some of them would love to help you.

Maybe in the past you’ve asked for help and were turned down.  At that point you decided to go it alone.  Maybe you asked the wrong person or it wasn’t the right time.  It can be hard to say why a person doesn’t come to your aid.  But, there are times when you can be overwhelmed by what others are willing to do for you.  Their generosity will fill your heart to the brim.

Through life’s journey, we’re mean to work together.  Looking at society right now, it may not seem that way, but we have a collective lesson to learn.  One of them is we can’t do it all ourselves.  With daycares and schools closed, there were a lot of parents who need help. Some people have been laid off from their jobs and haven’t been able to collect unemployment benefits.  Those people could use help.  Are you one of those people?  Or maybe you need help in another way.  Maybe your car broke down and you need a ride to work or just need someone to listen.  It could be any number of problems.

Allow someone to help you this week. Help someone else this week.  A little kindness goes a long way especially when we’re feeling overwhelmed by life and want to stay in bed.

How can you help yourself or others this week?  Let me know.  Do you want to know more about what I do?  Click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

I Want You to Like Me!

Do you change who you are based upon the people you’re around?  Do you go along with what others want because you don’t want them to dislike you?

We talk about these areas a lot in relation to teenagers and peer pressure.  But that type of pressure is just as prevalent in us as adults as it was when we were younger. 

As a teenager it may have been smoking or drinking alcohol to fit in, but as adults we may shift who we are for someone to like us or even love us.  We can even completely lose our sense of identity.  One day we wake up and don’t recognize our lives.  We begin to question how did we get here?

Or maybe the person that you shared your life with, showed you who they were.  Brief glimpses, but you were in love and that was what mattered.  It could have been a friend.  You idealized who they were.  You never saw who they really were.

There are so many reasons why.  When we can finally see without the blinders there is a sense of shock.  You try and process the information.  You reveal what happened to your friends and family.  Some will say they knew it all along.  Is that helpful?  Others will sit with you in the pain and move you forward. 

The past month has been full of revelations.  A sense of clarity.  Maybe we aren’t as enlightened as we thought, but we can still resonate at a higher vibration. We can still move forward. 

There have been truths coming out.  We can’t ignore them anymore.  Whether those truths are a part of our personal lives or something on a more global scale.  Seemingly bad things can be revealed to us.  The question is how do you respond?  Do you react from an emotional standpoint?  Or one that is well thought out. Those of us that speak from a reactionary place can cause damage whether we mean to or not.  We aren’t speaking from a place that is for our highest good.

Take some time this week and those coming to think before you respond.  What’s more important?  Is it what someone else likes or that you like yourself?  It can be hard to answer because we can desperately want both.

We must start somewhere.  The most important thing is to love yourself.  You can always find different friends or life partners, but you can never escape you.  Value who you are.  Treat yourself well.  Don’t bend who you are to meet anyone else’s expectations.  Loving yourself is the start of a better path forward and to all of life’s craziness.

Have you changed who you are for someone else?  Let me know.  Do you want to know more about what I do?  Click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.