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Ready or Not?

Ready or not here it comes?  2021 has been all about change.  There’s no going back to the way your life was.  Your life is going to be different moving forward.  How your life will be different is up to you.
 
2021 has given you the opportunity to build a new structure for your life.  You can see what the universe has had in store for you by looking at the world around you.  It would be nice if things could stay the way they were, but that’s not how life works.  It’s constantly evolving and changing.  You’re meant to evolve.  You’re not meant to stay in one place, although wouldn’t it be nice if you could?
 
What does 2022 have in store for you?  That’s unknown at this point.  What is known is that 2022 is a continuation of what you began in 2020 and 2021.  You’re meant to become a better and more authentic you.  There’s no more living based on what other people expect of you.  If you’re not happy, the universe is going to make it more and more difficult for you to stay stuck.  When you’re stuck, typically it’s because you’re fearful.  Fearful of what you may ask.  It could be any number of things.  You’re the only one with the answer to that question. If you don’t know, then ask for some guidance.  The universe will give you a little nudge in the right direction. 
 
The hardest part sometimes is to ask for help.  Whether it’s asking for help from your family and friends or even just the universe.  To let things unfold as they’re meant to.  You can’t push, no matter how hard you want something to happen, it can’t be forced.  There could be any number of reasons why, but you have to trust that what is meant for you cannot pass you by.  Take some time this week and start working on what you want your 2022 to look like.  Do you want a new job or someone to share it with?  Start to visualize that life and let the universe help guide you.  It will give you directions along the way, just follow the steps and begin 2022 with the intention of welcoming in what’s in your highest and best good.
 
What do you want 2022 to look like?  Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Christmas, the Season Of…

What does Christmas make you think of? Is it the season of magic or do you feel lonely? Christmas can make you feel either one, but it is a time of opportunity where anything is possible if you allow yourself to believe in magic.
 
Magic doesn’t make sense and it’s not supposed to.  It’s supposed to just happen, like synchronicity or miracles.  No matter how hard you try to force something to happen, it just unfolds the way that it’s meant to.  You can have the best-laid plans, and something can throw everything off track, you can’t plan for it. 
 
Christmas is the season of light and giving. The season of Santa. You may know all about Santa, but the mythology of Santa Claus encompasses the importance of magic. The idea that one man can fly around the world and deliver presents to all the children in the world. All myths have an origin. Christmas didn’t begin as a season of commercialism, but one of giving to our fellow man.  Saint Nicholas, who some say is the originator of the traditions associated with Santa Claus, is said to have given away all his material possessions and wealth. He traveled around, helping the sick and the poor. The Christian version of Christmas is the day of Jesus Christ’s birth. Another story that focuses on the poor. A pregnant woman and a man who were looking for a place to stay to deliver a child. He is born in a stable because there wasn’t room for them in the inn.  Both origin stories focus on gifts to the poor.
 
Whether or not these origin stories involve supernatural forces will never be known and you don’t have to know.  It is the essence of the season that’s important.  The belief that anything can happen. The world can change from the actions of one person, and you might not even know it at the time. Make a little room for the magic this holiday season. Allow the essence of the season to remain with you this week whether you’re surrounded by loved ones or due to other reasons are spending some time alone.  The magic is what’s important.
 
What magic is coming into your life? Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

What Are You Feeling?

Feelings can be a challenge. How might you ask? Feelings can be a challenge to not only describe at times but sometimes more important to express. Unexpressed feelings can just end us as emotions that are stuck with nowhere to go. Over time those emotions can build up and may even come out in unexpected ways.
 
Did you grow up with feelings being expressed? For most of us, I would say probably not. Expressed emotions tend to make people uncomfortable. Like they did something wrong or something that they want to fix but can’t. Even at events, such as funerals, where are emotions are more acceptable, you may still have trouble with others getting to witness you cry.
 
The first funeral that I went to was for my maternal grandfather when I was 17. I remember that funeral for many reasons, one of which being the Ice Storm of ’98, but the other was one that stuck with me for any funeral that I went to in years to come. My grandmother had lost her husband of 57 years and I never saw her cry. The word stoic has always come to mind. Now come to find out, it seems to be a trait amongst the women in that family. Feelings had a place and in public wasn’t one of them.  I don’t have any idea what she felt behind closed doors, again those types of feelings weren’t meant to be revealed.
 
In this period of time that we're in, right now, our feelings are coming to the surface. Things that you might never have known about are being revealed. They’re being seen in a different light.  There may have been long-standing issues that you’ve been working on and another piece of the puzzle will fall into place.  As you move through this experience, remember one thing. Allow your emotions to come out, even if you’d prefer, they stay hidden.  A little trick that I’ve used is to watch tearjerker movies and television shows to allow myself to cry.  I may be crying over something in my own life, but there’s something freeing in the act of allowing it to come out through watching a piece of fiction. 
 
The other reminder is if you have the opportunity this holiday season, tell someone that you love them. It can seem like life will last forever, but that’s not always the case.  You never know where life will take you and it can take people to places where we can’t follow.  It’s important to state how you feel when you have the opportunity.  You don’t want to look back years from now and wish that you would have said something.  You may not always get an I love you in return, but at least those feelings aren’t hidden inside.  Feel any feelings that are rising on the surface right now. It’s an important phase in your growth as a person.
 
What are you feeling? Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

It’s A Mistake!

I’m sure you’ve made a mistake.  The issue isn’t that you’ve made a mistake, but how have you dealt with it? Have you tried to fix the mistake, or do you just keep plowing ahead as though you haven’t made one? It could depend on the mistake.
 
This time of year, is perfect for trying to fix mistakes of the past or for forgiveness, whether it be to forgive yourself or others.  You may beat yourself up because you didn’t know something.  It’s ok that you didn’t know, the question is what do you do now that you know? 
 
There are things that you’ve learned that you had no way of knowing.  The past 18 months have been all about experiencing life in a way that you and no one else could have predicted. The life before March 2020 is gone and you can’t go back, but you can move forward and forgive for what you didn’t know.
 
Fear can stop you from living the life that you’ve dreamed.  The fear of being wrong can cause you to make mistakes. The idea that you might not be good enough to experience that dream is something that is real. After doing a lot of soul searching, you might start to feel differently. You wish that you’d known this information back before you made these choices.  You can choose again. I’m not talking about using a time machine, but you can do today what you didn’t do yesterday.  By starting to act differently, you can begin to change the mistakes of your past.
 
You do deserve to have the life that you’ve dreamed of.  You don’t have to carry the baggage of your past with you everywhere you go.  You can let it go. It doesn’t have to control you the way it always has.   This is a time for a new beginning.
 
What mistake do you want to let go of? Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment. 

It’s the Season of Light!

Some of you might think it’s too early to be looking ahead to Christmas.  I start decorating right after Thanksgiving, so I’m not in that camp.  The Sun moved into Sagittarius late in the day on November 21. For me, the Sun moving into Sagittarius signals the beginning of the Season of Light.
 
Sagittarius is a sign of wisdom, but also of hope and optimism. Something that you and everyone could use a little more of this year. The switch from Scorpio to Sagittarius is one where the energy can be felt. The release from the intensity of Scorpio is a welcome bit of relief. We’ve just given thanks for what we have, and the Sun doesn’t move into Capricorn until December 21.  For me, it’s the season of driving at night and seeing lights on people’s homes.  Just that alone can make the world seem like a happier place.
 
With everything that has been happening this year, it’s important to occasionally take a time out from the hustle and bustle and trying to figure out where you’re going and just be where you are.  To live in the present moment. To be optimistic, but not set in your ways, for how life could be. Maybe the world could agree to disagree and accept you and your neighbor for who they are. We so want to be right that we may have lost sight of what is true, or even beyond what is true, and acting from a place of love and empathy for our neighbor. It’s a hard standard to live by sometimes. It’s so easy to get wrapped up in the goings-on of the day, but an ideal to hold nonetheless. 
 
So, during this season, when it can feel like consumerism has gone mad and every decision is about what you’re spending to show people that you love and care for them, maybe take a minor detour.  Spend time with the people that you care about and be appreciative of what you have. If life has taught us anything in the last couple of years, it is that life is fragile and can change in an instant. You can’t go back, no matter how hard you want to, and the future can’t be predicted. You only have this moment to do with as you may. Show the people that you care about how much and look to the light for answers.
 
What does this season have to teach you? Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

What’s Rising to the Surface?

What emotions have been coming to the surface for you? Are you angry or sad or don’t know quite what to think?  The same thing keeps happening. It’s eclipse season and anything is possible.
 
The nodal axis is the process of switching from Gemini – Sagittarius to Taurus - Scorpio, from mutable to fixed. If you know your birth time, it’s a perfect time to see where Taurus and Scorpio lie in your chart.  What might be coming up for you? I’m a Gemini Rising, so Scorpio is in my 6th house (the house of daily life and health) and Taurus is in my 12th house (the house of hidden things).  The houses contain more than just this, but for simplicity purposes, we will keep it basic. Before the eclipses even start, you can start to see things shifting. My life is shifting from a focus on me (1st house) and my relationships (7th house) to what’s hidden (12th house) and my daily life (6th house). 
 
There are things from my past that I have kept hidden or didn’t know about that are starting to come up.  What has been keeping me blocked from moving forward? Where do I want to go and what is stopping me? My fears have always played the biggest role in stopping me. From the time I was a child, the dark and mysterious (Scorpio Sun) have fascinated me but stepping outside of my comfort zone and putting my trust in other people has held me back. There were a number of people that let me down and unfortunately for myself, I paid more attention to what they said to me than the people who showed me that they loved me and cared about me. For much of my life, I chose fear over love. I was too afraid to put myself out there and go for what I really wanted. In the last few years, I’ve begun to unravel that thread.  I started doing something with my life that I love. Not listening as much to what other people think about what I do, but there’s still more.  I’m having to allow people to get to know the dark and mysterious me.  I have to let people in and get to know me.
 
Like anything, this isn’t a journey that happens overnight.  It’s a process.  None of us are perfect. Not you and not me. There’s something that we’re all working on.  The question is, are you doing the work or are you allowing your past to control you? My past controlled me for a long time. More time than I would like to admit, but little by little, the past can be let go of. The emotions can be released. One day you can think about the past without breaking down into tears. You can appreciate the moments that make up a part of who you are. There may still be a sense that you wish you had realized it earlier, but it’s ok.  You can change today.
 
What is rising to the surface for you? Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Are You Feeling Alone?

Have you been feeling rather isolated lately?   Either by choice or the nature of life.  COVID-19 has changed so many people’s lives, it’s not particularly surprising that one of those maybe the feeling of isolation.
 
I have experienced isolation in many ways.  As a teenager, I was hurt by a friend and could no longer feel that I could trust people.  My method of coping was to hang out in my room and watch television.  I would live vicariously through other people’s lives, until one day I decided that it was time for me to venture back out into the world.  I still had trust issues, but the only way to move past it, is to try it, so I started trying to learn to trust people again.  It’s had its ups and downs over the years, but at least I have emerged from my room. 
 
When COVID-19 started, I returned to this pattern, but for a different reason.  The fear was still there, but it wasn’t an issue of whether I could trust people, but I was trying to protect myself and those I love.  I came out of full isolation mode in June of 2020 when I went back to work, but there was still a piece that felt that I needed to protect the people that I care about, so I went to the grocery store and to work and not too much else. 
 
Just within the last few months, I’ve started to emerge a little bit, I’m going shopping in stores again, fully masked of course.  In October, I went to my cousin’s wedding.  You either had to prove your vaccination status or provide a negative COVID test within 48 hours of the event.  I went to a hotel, with a bottle of disinfectant, just to be on the safe side, and nothing happened.  I stepped out of my comfort zone, and nothing had happened.  I started to imagine the possibilities.  Maybe life can return to some sort of normal.
 
The next week, I found out someone that I know and had encountered had come down with COVID-19.  I went back to the end of March 2020.  I quarantined in my room.  I was masked, if I had to come out and my bottle of disinfectant, went everywhere with me.  I passed 2 negative COVID tests before I emerged.  The stress that weighed on me that week is one that I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy.  All the what-ifs came to mind.  I had to protect myself and the people that I care about.
 
My story over the course of my teenage years, the past year, or the past month, maybe something that you can relate to.  It’s not unique and one that so many of you encounter.  How do you deal with the unexpected?  Do you run and hide?  Is there a reason for you to isolate and quarantine?  Either way, the result is the same.  The feeling of being alone. 
 
As an introvert, I need some time alone, but an entire week alone was a little more alone time than I bargained for.  There are people out there, that live this life every day.  It’s not the healthiest way to live and can lead to feelings of depression, even for the healthiest among us. 
 
What can you do to help someone who’s feeling alone or isolated themselves?  The answer may be felt like nothing, but human companionship is one of the necessities on this journey called life.  You need people around you to feel alive and guide you through the lessons of life.  This isn’t a time to isolate yourself from the traumas of the world, no matter how much easier it may be. 
 
If you are feeling alone, what can you do?    Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

What is Going on with Everyone?

Have you noticed that people seem to be angrier and ruder than normal lately?  There doesn’t seem to be any wiggle room anymore for compassion towards others.  People are at their wit's end and just can’t take anything else.  It’s my way or the highway.
 
Remember you always have a choice.  It may not seem like it at the time, but you do have a choice.  Lots of businesses are having to change their prices and policies to keep up with the changing times, whether it be people’s new habits or the price of doing business.  Your choice in that moment is to accept their pricing and policies as they now stand and continue doing business with them or to go somewhere else.  Sending angry emails and text messages don’t get you where you want to be.  It may feel great at that moment, but compassion will get you further.  The person that read that angry message rarely has anything to do with the change that you’re upset about.  That person is just doing the job that they’re paid to do.  All that happens is you make that person’s day more difficult.
 
It seems that a boiling point as been reached.  Are you one of the people that has been on the receiving end of someone else’s tirade, or have you been one that’s been taking your emotions out on those around you?  Either way, it probably doesn’t feel great after that initial moment.  The most helpful thing that you can do is to think before you react.  If you must respond, do it with kindness.  Respect our people’s boundaries and know there is a reason that a boundary is in place. 
 
You always have a choice in how you respond.  If you need someone else’s opinion before you respond, seek it.  Think about your response first.  If you’re having a conversation, tell the person that you need a moment to think about it and will get back to them with a response.  Always remember that even when it doesn’t seem like it you have options.  It may not be what you want, but you do have a choice.
 
What can you do to have more compassion for yourself and others?   Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Are You Being Judged?

Judgment is a challenging emotion, whether you are the one that is being judged or doing the judging.  With judgment, there tends to be a lower-level emotion associated with it, whether it be shame, guilt or blame.  If you’re feeling judged, why do you feel that way?
 
It could something as simple as having to ask a pharmacist for a test behind the counter and them giving you a look.  The person didn’t say anything, but the look in their eyes could have been the only thing that was needed to make you feel judged.  It’s normally bringing a feeling to the surface that you haven’t dealt with yet.  What’s the emotion that you need to work through?
 
On to the judgment of other people.  This one is a little more complicated.  You could be judging them for what are perceived as valid reasons.  You visit a company’s website and make the decision whether to work with them based upon what you see.  The judgments that you make may or may not be valid, but you could perceive them as being valid.  These types of judgments are made every day.  Not all judgment is bad.
 
The question for you, is what is the judgment trying to teach you?  Everything that happens is meant to teach you something.  Some big issues have been coming to the surface.  It’s time to begin the process of working through them.  So if you’ve felt judged or have judged someone else, begin to look at the reasons why. 
 
What has judgment been teaching you?  Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Have you…

Have you learned the lessons that you’ve been meant to learn this year?  In the last week, the planets Mercury and Jupiter have gone direct, but we’re still in their shadows, plus the shadows of Pluto and Saturn, which turned direct earlier this month.
 
The planets have been revealing secrets and lessons that we’re meant to learn.  Have you changed the way that you react, or are you planning on moving forward in a different way?  Are you going to pursue a new path?  Have you been rethinking the patterns of your life or that of your family?
 
There isn’t one lesson to learn in life.  A new one can be revealed to you each day.  But just because you may have changed, doesn’t mean that the people around you have.  There may still be pieces of the puzzle to be revealed.  Information is always coming.  You don’t yet know everything that you need to know, but you have enough to start.
 
Start working through the information and the lessons provided.   What’s the first step to take?  That first step could take you a while to work through.  Take all the time you need unless you have a deadline.  The universe will reveal what you need to know when you need to know it.  You don’t need all the pieces to start.
 
When you work with a blank canvas, you don’t know what the result is going to be.  You just start.  Start painting and work towards a product.
 
What lessons have you learned this year?  Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

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