Category: Change

Oh, The Memories!

Have a lot of memories been coming to the surface for you lately?  What have you been doing with them?  Memories are part of a larger story that you’re trying to process.  Maybe it's time for you to do things differently, or are secrets from the past being revealed?  Anything is possible.
 
Everything coming to the surface is providing you with information to move you forward.  Nothing happens by accident.
 
What ghosts are coming to the surface for you?  As I sit down to write this, I’m watching the Fire Department do a controlled burn on a house across the street.  Information that I didn’t know about that house has been coming to my attention all week.  Future plans have been coming out and plans have been made, but what about the emotional component?  That’s also been a part of the process.  I’m remembering what that house was like when I was a kid and how to relates to my memories.
 
I can’t change the decisions that others have made no matter how much I may want to.  Eventually, the house will become part of the memory.  The land will have a new path forward.
 
This is what your life is going through right now.  Some part of your past is burning to the ground.  There’s an emotional component that you need to process and plan for the next phase of your life to begin.
 
Memories can help guide you forward if you allow them to and not just live in the memory.  The past can be used to assist you, but for so many, it tends to stop you in your tracks and swallow you whole.  Allow your memories to move you forward.
 
What are your memories trying to show you?  Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Happiness Is….

What is the definition of happiness to you?  According to Merriam-Webster’s dictionary, the definition of happiness is “a state of well-being and contentment, joy.”  But what does that mean to you?
 
Happiness is something that you strive for.  You want to be happy in your life, but what do you mean when you break it down?  You may not even know the answer yourself.  It can be harder than you may think to define.
 
Once you’ve defined what happiness means to you, how do you get there?  The next obstacle.  Part of the reason why so many people are unhappy is we don’t know how to get there.  You keep trying over and over again.  You may get close, but it can seem to slip right through your fingers.
 
It can be hard to believe that happiness is just as much a state of being as sadness.  Sadness just seems to creep up on you and take over, but can happiness do the same?  It can if you allow it.  That can be a hard concept to grasp.  Happiness is a state of being.  If you want to be happy, then work towards being happy.  It can be done, but it may take some effort.  The negative some days seem so much easier to believe the positive.  Happiness is the same way.
 
How badly do you want it?  Sit down and make a list of all the things that make you happy.  Once you’ve done that see if you come up with any common themes. Take those common themes and see if you can develop a game plan to bring a little more happiness into your life.  If any time of year can bring more happiness, it’s summer.
 
Work from your list each day.  It’s all about creating a pattern.  Bring in the emotions you want and create them in your life. 
 
How are you going to create happiness in your life?  Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

What or Who Do You Love?

Love can be a tricky emotion to talk about.  It can feel different from one person to another.  It can be unknown.
 
Love is one of the higher vibration emotions that you can experience, but it can also involve a world of hurt.
 
As a teenager, I was friends with a person who manipulated me to the point that once I stood up for myself and fought back; I didn’t know who I was, but one thing that I did know was I never wanted to feel that way again.
 
What I didn’t know at the time is an attitude like that can prevent the good from coming in, and it didn’t stop the hurt.  The hurt still surrounded me, it became a focus.
 
One of our objectives in this life is to love others.  Hurt is a natural part of the process.  You’re going to hurt when people leave your life whether it be from moving away, dying, or an end to the relationship.
 
Hurt helps you to grow and expand.  There are lessons that you’ve learned through love and hurt that you couldn’t have grasped if it had happened in another way.  You don’t grow when all is happy in your life.  You learn from the drama, the tension, and the hurt.
 
Looking back at your life, you’ll remember moments from the good times, but the bad times helped to shape you as a person.
 
I never wanted to hurt again after that experience, but I still have those moments in my life.  Those moments led me in a new direction.  I wouldn’t be writing this blog post, if I hadn’t been fired.  I wouldn’t be who I am if I hadn’t experienced the dark times.  I’m sure you can say the same.
 
If you allow it, your hurt will lead you where you need to go.  It will take you to a new lesson.  A new way to grow.
 
What are you hurting about right now?  Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Clean Up!

Have you been cleaning a lot recently?  Throwing things away that are broken?  Donating or selling what you no longer use?
 
Over the last year, people have been cleaning the house.  To the point where donation centers have put limitations and reminders on what they will and won’t take.
 
You may be one of the fortunate ones where cleaning up is easy.  You’ll periodically go through your belongings and toss what you don’t need anymore.  For another group of you, everything has meaning.  You can’t get rid of that, so and so owned it or so and so gave it to you.  Everything is connected to memory.  Maybe you fall somewhere in between the two extremes.
 
I’ve been resistant while the mass cleaning of people’s spaces has been going on.  Why might you ask?  Partly because of the amount of time that I would have to spend, but also because I didn’t have the energy to look through everything.  This past week, the energy shifted.  I knew it was time and I didn’t have any more excuses.
 
To manifest what you want, sometimes you must get rid of what you don’t want.  You must make space.  Making space for what you want somedays can be a challenge, but it’s necessary.
 
If your life is already full, do you truly have space for something new?  Only you can answer that question.  For now, I’ll continue making space a little bit at a time.  It may time longer, but there’s nothing that says I need to tackle it all at once.  I just have to do it.  Just cleaning up a part of the space, feels lighter.  There’s room opening for something new to enter.  Not sure what that might be yet, but it’s a start.  The intention is there.
 
Manifestation is a multi-step process.  The step that isn’t always mentioned is the decluttering process.  Yes, it is a process.  It’s not as easy as just cleaning for many.  Allow the process to unfold as it’s mean to.
 
Where are you in your decluttering process?   Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Is It The Heat Of The Moment?

Do you ever find yourself triggered?  It could be from a phone call, conversation, email or just scrolling through social media.  You desperately want to respond.  Put that other person in their place.  You want to tell them that’s not true or maybe just unleash all of your anger about something else.
 
Try something different.  Take a step back.  Let yourself get to a place where you’re calm.  Words can be unleashed in anger that you can’t take back.
 
You may find yourself having a confrontation with an employee who’s just doing their job.  You may just say something that isn’t true.  There’s a tendency to not be your best self at these moments.
 
Being triggered is meant to be a moment where you have the opportunity to see things clearly.  Triggers are meant to make you uncomfortable.  They’re meant to help you grow.  You can only truly grow in those moments.
 
When everything is going along the way you want it, are you going outside of your comfort zone?  I’m guessing the answer is no.
 
The darkness is where you learn.  It’s not meant to be all lollipops and rainbows.  You came here to learn.  What you come here to learn is for you to decide.  You aren’t meant to stay in one place.
 
So the next time you start feeling angry or uncomfortable, take a step back.  Ask yourself questions and try to come from a place that is kind to yourself and those around you.  The world could use a little more kindness.
 
What is coming to the surface that’s making you uncomfortable?  Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Is Your Life Supposed to Be Like This?

Was your life supposed to be this way?  Like the theme song from the TV show Friends “So no one told you life was gonna be this way; Your job’s a joke, you’re broke; Your love life’s DOA; It’s like you’re always stuck in second gear…”
 
Is this what your life feels like now?  Growing up you imagine a life.  Maybe you’ll be married, have kids and a house with a white picket fence.  Maybe you’ll have a successful career.  Or maybe you’ll just be happy.
 
When you’re growing up you rarely know how hard life is going to be some days.  The work you have to do just to jeep a roof over your head and food on the table.
 
Society teaches us lines about how hard life is.  “Life sucks and then you die.”  “Life isn’t easy.”  Just two of many sayings that are out there.
 
What I’m sure you want to know is when does life get easier?  The choice may be yours to make.  I’m sure you’re asking what does that mean?  From the time you were a small child, you started to take in messages from the world around you.  You were taught to feel shame, guilt, fear, etc.  Those messages became a part of you.  They may have even become a piece of your identity.

When you first get into the work of changing your life, it’s these messages that are often tackled.  You need to quiet the voices.  You need to eliminate the messages.  But how do you begin?
 
It’s a personal journey.  I began mine with Reiki.  The voices had grown overwhelming, and I wanted them to stop.  I wanted to feel good about myself.  So much had happened in my life that I couldn’t remember, but I knew that my psyche did.  How was I going to dissolve messages that I couldn’t remember?  I started to do work energetically with a practitioner.  I tried a lot of different modalities, but Reiki was and is still one of the gentlest.  It’s a great way to ease yourself into the work of transforming your life.  It didn’t just happen in one session.  Over the course of time and regular work, my life began to shift.  It’s still not perfect.  I’m still working through my fears, but Reiki is still one of my go-to forms of energy work.  So much so that I became a Reiki Master in 2019 and soon will begin doing in-person sessions.  Reiki changed my life, and it could be the start of changing yours.
 
What about your life hasn’t happened the way you thought?  Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment. 

Between Worlds

Do you know what the future looks like?  If you do, aren’t you lucky!  If not, join the club.  You may have ideas.  You may have hopes and dreams, but it’s not certain until it lands in the present.
 
There are times where you so badly want something to happen, that you don’t live in the present moment.  You live for creating the future.  That perspective may eventually take you where you want to go, but it can also be emotionally draining.  You’re always seeking and searching rather than being able to accept life for what it is.
 
The same can be said if you’re a person that lives in the past.  You may believe the best days of your life are behind you.  You miss what was instead of what is.
 
Living in the present can be a challenge.  Especially for those who are trying to create a better you.  The trials of life are hard.  You so desperately want to be happy and there isn’t a lot of happiness in the world.
 
Last year the rug was pulled out from under you, and nothing is the same.  It’s not meant to.  You’re in the rebuilding stage.  You’re creating something new, and unfortunately, it doesn’t happen overnight.  You’re going to stumble, and you may even fail along the way.
 
Life’s journey is never easy and it’s the in-between areas of life where you learn the most about yourself and others.
 
For so much of life, the in-between areas are challenging and difficult, but there’s value.  Take the in-between area for what it is.  The area where a puzzle is started.  You start putting the pieces together and one day it will be completed.
 
For now, it may be messy and unknown, but there’s something there to be explored.  What in-between areas of life are you exploring?   Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Give It A Go

Are you afraid to try something new or even something that you did a long time ago?  Sometimes you have to be brave to try either one.
 
According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, the term bravery is “the quality or state of having or showing mental or moral strength to face danger, fear, or difficulty.”  While bravery may often show up in times of war, it can just as easily be used to define a person that’s willing to face their fears.
 
Facing your fears doesn’t just mean running into a burning building either.  It could be something that’s held you back for months or years.   It could be as simple as trying something.
 
As a child, I was never a great roller skater, but I could roller skate.  However, I haven’t been roller skating in at least 20 years.  I decided recently I was going to try.  I didn’t even know if I’d be able to stand up.  I bought a helmet and put on the roller skates.  Surprise, I could stand up!  Moving around is a different story.  I do great skating on the grass, but the cement is trickier.  My niece and nephew took my hand to help.  At the end of a half-hour on skates, I decided that I should purchase some pads.  It would have been so easy to criticize myself.  I used to be able to do this and now I can’t.  But I decided to applaud myself for trying and once my pads I will try again.
 
Maybe for you, it's not roller skates, but the story still applies.  Did you try?  If you did, it takes bravery to face rejection or getting hurt to try.  You don’t know unless you try.  Don’t lash out at yourself because it wasn’t perfect, or you lost ground.  It rarely is.  The point is what did you do that you might have otherwise.
 
If you tried, you were brave.  If you didn’t, there’s always tomorrow.  There are days where you’re going to get stuck in your head.  That’s ok.  You might have to work towards it.  That’s ok too. 
 
Nobody says that you must accomplish everything today.  It can be a progression towards your goal.  The question is did you try?
 
What have you been brave about?  Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

But I Don’t Want It to End!

Endings can be complicated and complex.  You may want something to end, but there can be emotions involved that you’re not ready to deal with yet.
 
Life comes in cycles.  There’s always a beginning, middle, and end.  But like a circle, for something new to start, you must release something that doesn’t.
 
For the new to begin, you may have to confront a fear that’s held you back for years.  You may have to speak it aloud.  Speaking what you want may be one of the hardest to do.  There’s always the chance that someone can say no.  If you have trouble just speaking it aloud, the response of no can be a blow that stops you in your tracks.  The challenging part of no can be a no for now.  But the no could signify an ending of sorts.  It could be the end of a dream and the beginning of something new.
 
You have faced challenges, many of which you wished would end, but didn’t.  You ready to start something new but needed to address something else first.
 
There is a transition that happens between endings and beginnings.  One that can often seem seamless.  One day the world seems one way and the next it's completely changed.  In March 2020, for so many, an old way of doing things ended and a new began.
 
It can be difficult to determine what keeps you from ending something, but there’s typically an element of fear involved.  Facing your fears may be one of the hardest things you do.  Others may surround you and comfort you on your journey, but they can’t live life for you.  You’re the only one who can do it.
 
For most obstacles in life, there’s no doubt that endings can be one of the hardest, but there can often be a gift on the other side.  Remember to tell yourself, that everything you want is on the other side of fear.
 
What are you afraid of facing for a new cycle to begin?   Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.

Once Upon A Dream

I’m sure you have hopes and wishes.  It’s a part of what makes you the person you are.  You want to achieve something.  You want to attain something.  You want to do something.
 
The last year has been a challenge for those hopes and wishes.  Many of them were put on hold.  Some fell apart and others are still coming to light.
 
2020 was difficult for so many reasons, but so many lost hope.  This isn’t the time to lose hope, or to forget to dream.  That’s not to say that the protocols made to keep you safe aren’t tiresome and there’s a desire to one day not have to wear a mask for long periods of time, but we’re on the precipice of something being ready to come to light.  It many not come for another 6 months.  But in the grand scheme of things 6 months is nothing.  You can do this.
 
In the meantime, remember to wish.  Create what you want the next phase of your life to look like.  This is the time when you can plant the seeds.  You can do the work to get yourself ready for the new part of your life.
 
It’s coming, but the work comes first.  Everything happens in cycles.  You need to have the idea.  Then you research the idea.  Make a decision and execute.  Wishes are the same way.  You decide what your wish is.  See whether it’s plausible.  Make a decision as to whether it’s achievable and then you go for it or start over.
 
It's spring here in the Northern Hemisphere, it’s time to plant the seeds.  Come up with the ideas that you might want to bring to light.
 
You’re probably at different places in your dreams.  Some could be in the execution phase, while others are coming to light.  There’s nothing wrong with taking time out of your day to dream.  What do you want the next phase of your life to look like?  It can be a more complicated question then one might think.
 
You may need to explore the depths of yourself.  You may need to discover what’s gone wrong in the past or maybe you dive all in and jump into the deep end.  The choice is yours, but it’s time to dream.
 
What are your wishes? Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment. 

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