The world seems to be of two extremes now. Joy or the inability to accept what’s transpired.
It’s easy to feel giddy when things go the way you want, but do you do when they don’t. Things don’t always go as we’ve planned or expect. There are days when you come up with a plan and just as the day begins your plan has gone awry. It’s the nature of life.
Elisabeth Kubler-Ross identifies the 5 stages of grief as: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Getting to the acceptance phase can take time and, in some cases, might never happen.
Denial. We don’t want to hear it. We want to hide from the world. The idea that this can’t be happening right now. It can’t be true. Anger. The pain starts to emerge. We lash out at ourselves and those around us. Bargaining. The if only statements begin to appear. We want someone else to step in. Why couldn’t it have happened differently? Maybe it still could. Depression. Sadness and regret. Acceptance. The stage where peace is made. This process can happen quickly, or it may never reach completion.
It's ok to be upset that things didn’t work out how you wanted. They don’t always, but it’s not ok to try and manipulate matters to meet your needs. Give it a chance and see what happens.
We’re in a huge state of change in our lives. Change is easiest when it’s the one we choose. It’s difficult when it’s not. It doesn’t change the reality of what’s going on.
What do you need to accept? Let me know. Do you want to know more, click here to book a discovery session or an appointment.